I've done the best I could for my marriage as long as I could. Even when I was miserable. I know a divorce would make me happy. I dont see the marriage as a failure but as a learning experiance that has made me grow on many levels. My question is why do I still feel heart broken that I know my marriage is over? There is no more hope besides the false hope I've had. I know I would be happier if we were divorced so why am I sad?
2007-01-16 12:35:33 · 14 answers · asked by km_angelheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The fear of starting all over again, i ahd the same feelings, when i got divorced, when i left. its a natural feeling. Hang in there all will be fine, just need to know that you did your best.
2007-01-16 12:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're still sad, because it's normal to feel sad after being with someone for so long and then have it end (even if it was what you wanted). Even though you wanted the relationship to end, you are sad over the "good" times that you did share. It's part of the moving on process. You'll have to grieve about it and then finally you can leave it all behind and start fresh. Maybe you can try meeting new people or taking up new interests...this way you can let the pass and go and not hold on it, I'm sure it was for the best. :)
2007-01-16 21:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by UnknownJaneDoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel heart broken because you put so much into your marriage only to have it fail. You also at some point loved this person that you have shared your life with and there is always sadness at the end of any relationship. But you will get over in time and emerge as a better person. Good Luck.
2007-01-16 20:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Al J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sister, I am with you! I am "on the fence" right now too. I know the marriage is over, I know I would be happier, but it's mustering up the courage to tell him that I am dragging my feet on. I too am sad, because everything I dreamed about with him will not come true. But those dreams can still come true, either alone, or with someone else. I almost left 3 years ago...and you know what....nothing changed in those 3 years. You feel sad because you are grieving those lost dreams, the hope you had and the fantasy of happily ever after. I know, I am doing it too.
2007-01-17 00:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by azzur15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I believe a divorce would make me and my son happier, but I just can"t seem to get to do it. I have a job and I hope my husband has the decency to be fair and not try to be jerk and use my son. I'm afraid because of all is threats throughout our marriage.
2007-01-16 22:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by jade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this way it is time to let go and move on.. Life is too short to live this way. Make sure you have some good friends and family to lean on. They will help you move on to a better life. Just remember not everyone can be happy with each other. There are other fish in the sea just take some time for youyrself to get to know yourself again. GOO D LUCK
2007-01-16 20:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by Dustin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the friendliest divorce I know of; we split everything, he helped me move, we gave each other dating advice. Yes I still cried all the time and felt like I was in a nightmare, even though i asked for the divorce.
Your heart is sad for a number of reasons...you wanted it to work out, you know something is ending, etc. it is normal. Divorce is the #2 hardest thing to deal with, right behind death.
2007-01-16 20:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reason for sadness is simple: divorce is like the death of a relationship. As in any loss, no matter how necessary, you go through the stages of grief. It is normal for you to feel this way; hopefully, you have learned and grown from the experience, and you and your ex can be civil and move on in your lives. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-16 20:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt a divorce will make you happy, it's just not that easy. See no one else (and nothing else) can MAKE you happy but yourself. If YOU are unhappy right now then you have to look deep inside yourself and decide what it is about YOU that makes you happy and bring that forward BEFORE you go for that divorce. If not once you get that final decree of divorce you still won't be happy and will be wondering why.
2007-01-17 02:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sad because it is still a loss, regardless of whether you are ready for it to end. Maybe your heart is no longer in it, but there was a time when your entire being was dedicated to the relationship.
2007-01-16 23:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋