ok so i was with my husband for 6 years. we have a 2 yr old son. we had a picture perfect relationship in the start. then towards the middle when i was pregnant he started to aprecciate me less and less. he started to get verbally abusive, then about a yr after my son was born he started to push grab and shove me around... finally last yr around may/june he lost it. he beat me pretty bad, maybe it was my fault for lying about my best friend (which happened to be a guy) but i couldnt recognize myself the next day... half my face was bruised my arm was bruiesd and so was my chest, he had grabbed my head and slammed it unto the concrete and then socked me in the face. if it werent for my son waking up cause he was thirsty i do believe he wouldve killed me. it took me awhile after to get the guts to finally leave him...we are now seperated...the thing is i still love him, im not in love with him but hes still on my mind, i never wanted to be that stuoid girl that gets beat but still stays.
2007-01-16 12:13:47 · 7 answers · asked by tinkerbell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's ok to love him, but realise that he'd hurt you again in all probability if you went back to him. Give it some time. Stay away from him.
Oh and by the way, it was NOT your fault for 'lying'. NO ONE deserves to be beaten for anything.
Please contemplate going to a help group for this. They will give you support and offer my aid than any of us can on here.
I sincerely hope that life treats you well from here on. It sounds like it owes you big time.
2007-01-16 12:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with having feelings for him after all u weren't the one that changed that was all his doing and no its NEVER your fault any disagreement can be resolved without one person lifting a finger to the other person. Be strong don't get sucked back in this once an abuser always will be.Trust in god and pray they say prayer move mountains oh so true.
2007-01-16 12:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did a very brave thing when you left him. It is normal of course to still have feelings for him. you had a son with him, you were married. He wasnt always like that. But you have to remember that he would do it again. The only thing that matters now is making sure your son never has to experence the kind of pain you had to (which wasnt your fault by the way). You are his mother. I dont know you, but I am really very proud of you.
2007-01-16 12:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made a good decision for yourself when you left him. Now, get on with your life. You do not deserve to be treated this way. Get away from this abuser and you feelings of love will dissolve. You are strange in that you say you love him. He is an abuser and always will be. Get out for your children's sake, if not for your own. They will need a Mother too. Get help. Please
2007-01-16 12:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For get him
I dont care no body is worth being with if your going to get hurt. The other thing he may hurt your boy then what will happen. STAY AWAY.
2007-01-16 12:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Hyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! What ever u do don't go back to him. He will repeat it all over again. I don't know why. It's something with the way woman are build. They think they can change their man .U can't only can change himself.
2007-01-16 12:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u should take the kids and leave be4 its to late.............
2007-01-16 12:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋