I met a guy online and stupidly, sent him some sexy pics. of me. They aren't nude just me in bikinis. I told him to get rid of the pics. after he looks at them. He did send a pic. of himself but he isn't my type. We talked about doing some kinky things. He e-mailed me telling me that I must be naked if I want to get together and now I"m kinda scared. He says he's an "important businessman" and anonymity is a must and he knows I have a boyfriend. Okay, I asked him to spank me because it's a fantasy I have and I don't want to ask my boyfriend. He really is scaring me now and told me he is into guns! He lives near me and I have his pic. and his e-mail address. If I call the police, will my family and boyfriend necessarily find out? Yes, I'm an adult. I KNOW THIS WAS REALLY STUUPID OF ME AND SOME OF YOU THINK I DESERVE THIS BUT I DON'T! I am mentally unstable and see a psychiatrist who could testify that my instability. I'm scared, what should I do????
2007-01-16 12:08:10 · 12 answers · asked by SHELTIELUVER 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Well, since you sent the pics to him willingly, you have little recourse over them. All you can do is hope that he saves them for himself and doesn't spread them all over the internet.
As long as you didn't give him your address or place of employment, you should be alright for now. Send him a single message that you're recording his email and giving it to a friend, and then tell him to not contact you anymore. Block him on all of your emails and messenger programs.
If you have a fantasy, you should discuss it with your boyfriend. Even if he's not into it or willing to try, you should still be honest with him about your desire to ask someone else to give you that fantasy. If you do continue to look for someone, don't exchange inappropriate pics with someone that you don't know. Get to know them online, then meet them in a public place for the first few times. If you boyfriend is willing and supportive, ask him to come along. If someone won't meet you with your boyfriend present, then you don't want to play with them.
If you were close to me, I'd have been happy to help you out, and wouldn't have cared if your boyfriend knew.... or watched.
2007-01-16 15:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by baka_otaku30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far what you told me isn't enough to get the police involved. You consented to doing this with him and you said some things that you shouldn't, but that would tend to lead someone on and would tend to get the type of responses that you recieved. Now, you want out of this "relationship." However, what has this person done that is either violent or offensive? Nothing. You played along.
Now, the first thing you should do is level with this guy. Tell him that you don't want this kind of relationship and that you are sorry you led him on. Tell him that you'd appreciate that he get rid of the pictures. Tell him that you are sorry, but you need to stay with your boyfriend.
If he persists in emailing you, change your email address. If he calls you, tell him to stop. If he won't stop, tell him you'll call the cops. If he still won't stop or he starts stalking you or threatening violence, then call the cops and get a restraining order.
Most likely, once you give him the brush off, he'll get the hint and stay away. Most guys do.
2007-01-16 13:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Erik B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and tell them what is going on. Don't be surprised if you see your pics floating around on the internet now. If you have saved any of the e-mails/conversations, save them. They could be used to obtain an I.P. address and track this guy down. Don't ever do it again, sweetie. Next time, the guy may show up at your door. Your family may find out about it, but that may be a good thing so that they can help protect you.
2007-01-16 12:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg your an adult are you sure im a teenager and i know not to do such a thing well he could be just lieing about being a big business man and having guns just calm down a tell him not to contact you anymore because your have problems and if he continues just call the police your family might found out but you did the right thing. But calm down its not so bad so next time dont send pics of yourself on the internet anybody could have them now
2007-01-16 12:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by samo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW do you know he lives near you? DID YOU GIVE HIM ANY INFO ON WHERE YOU LIVE???? If so there could be a problem but I'm not sure what the police could do unless he starts to harrass you. Tell your psychiatrist though as this could be very important info for him/her. Ask him/her for advise on what to do. In the future BE MORE CAREFUL. Hopefully nothing will happen. I'll keep you in my prayers. Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-16 12:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by PROUDJEW 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The great thing about the net is the annonimity behind which we can hide.
Change your e-mail address and do not return to your old address.
As a adult, there is very little the Police can do - you rather initiated the exchange.
2007-01-17 12:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HERES THE TRUTH, nothing held back, if you have someones email address you can find out alot of info, if you are computer savvy that is. There's always those details you may leave out, like whether or not he offered to pay you money which why would you want to admit that to begin with you Im sure only saw dollar signs, especially if you have a broke boyfriend and live a double lifestyle, which apparently you do.
Seriously how stupid do you think some us are, I dont know your age but your a young female, you more than likely have a young boyfriend whose a great a lay but he just isnt rich enough of whatever, why wont you go to the police already, because you know that sex in exchange for money is illegal and that is the only thing you have left out and would be ashamed of anyone like the law knowing.
Good grief already, if you were mentally stable you wouldn't be soliciting your self on line. Someone to spank you , you could've paid some local escort to do it and not deal with this grief, do you deserve this no but you certainly leaving out details and need to go the police regardless of whether or not you offered to sell your "poonanni"
2007-01-16 12:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by defenseonly 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
To be honest, I don't think the police can do anything unless he threatens you. Immediately break off all contact with him. Do not answer his e-mails.(I would block his e-mail from your computer) After awhile he will probably just stop contacting you. If you do get threatening e-mails, print them and give them to the police. You can ask them if you could keep this quiet. Everybody makes stupid mistakes sometimes, consider yourself "human" like the rest of us. Good luck!
2007-01-16 12:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by alessa_sunderland 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are sorry but you were not serious and do not want further contact with him.
If he harrasses you after that then you can call the police.
2007-01-16 12:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by castlekeepr 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you need a spanking now send me your pics
2007-01-16 13:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋