Young girls want babies; Why?

Question

These young girls are igging my nerves wanting babies because they think they'll look cute pregnant or they'll have an adorable baby to love and to love them back. Don't they realize they can't love the child(ren) if they can't care for them properly? Love isn't letting a baby/child go hungry and wet and cursing it out for being curious. I see this in young mothers so often. They act like the child owes them something. Is there anything we as a world can do to improve this? I know it's a slim chance, but I had to get it off my chest anyway. Thanks in advance for your input/opinion.

To people likeTabatha...I'm not looking down on young mothers. I wasn't talking about "all" teen mothers anyway! I became a mom at the age of 18 and went back to get my GED and have a Nursing degree and I'm expecting my 5th child in Sept. I'm talking about the teens who want babies for no-good reasons and end up ruining the child(rens) lives due to selfishness and lack of responsibility. I commend the young/single mothers who do what they got to do to ensure their kids a hearty and happy life.

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Answer 1

I'm with you. I had my first child at 18. My younger cousin saw how "fun," it was to be pregnant. I didn't think being on bedrest for 6 months was fun but whatever. Then when I gave birth to my daughter, she saw how much "fun," I was having getting puked on constantly. She was also at my house the day I used 5 diapers in one changing on my daughter. I'd put a clean one underneath her butt, she'd poop on it...lol. Then she saw how much "fun," my husband and I had when we had an infant with an earache. My cousin is now 15 and pregnant. She gets to experience the hell that I went through while being pregnant. The difference is that her mom gets to pay for everything. My husband paid for everything when I was pregnant. She says she has it all figured out. This girl doesn't even know who her child's father is. I honestly think it is just stupid to WANT a child at such a young age. I didn't want a child until I got pregnant, and even then I was scared to death. Wanting a child at a young age is not only stupid, it's the most selfish thing these girls can do.

You have a beautiful family by the way.

Answer 2

yes there is something the world can do. If parents would raise their child properly then they can better educate their child of the consquenses of having a child so young. But remember most of the elderly had children at a young age. I know in Louisiana most of elderly woman had children in their early teens. And they weren't bad parents. So it is not so much of the age of when you have a child rather the responsiblity and maturity. And lets face it now days teens think they have all the wisdom they need, yet in reality they are completely irresponsible. ( No I am not meaning every teen is that way)

Answer 3

I totally agree with you. I had my first child when I was 33 and at 34 am pregnant with my second. I see young Mothers at the shops cussing their children and because they are immature themselves they don't know or care to learn how to bring up a child properly. My favourite is when I pick my child up from child care after work and you see a car full of teen girls in their bathers come back from the beach to collect their child. They get child care so cheap (government subsidy) why not dump your kid so you can spend all your time socialising?! At least it makes me see things that I definitely do not want to do to my children.
The other thing here in Australia at the moment is once your child is born you get a baby bonus from the government which is currently AUD $4000-00. Hence the rate of teen Mothers exploded and so did the sales of plasma TV's and X-Boxes. But they have changed the rules now that under 21's get the money installments instead of a lump sum.
I would like to say that not all teen Mothers are like this - just most of them.

Answer 4

Many times things like this start when the child is lacking some sort of attention in the home, and feels like a baby will bring them joy. Of course a baby is joy, but I do agree with you when you say love isn't letting the baby go hungry. But most young girls these days know that if there still at home with the child that there parents or parent will take care of their baby for them. Some girls like dolls, and maybe they want a real doll that pees and crap

Answer 5

I answered a simmilar question to this one about 5 min ago and I am going to give the same response with little variation...I think that instead of sex ed in our high schools, we should have them have to with sepervision of course...take a baby overnight to see what it is actually like....

Because these girls only have the maturity level of their age....When I was younger I thought having a baby would be such a breeze, that they would never cry, etc etc etc....What they need is to be put into someone elses shoes. Meaning, they need to take the place of a teen mother for one night overnight to realize that having a baby is not just fun and games. I was a single mom at 19 and I am pregnant with my second at 21, I wouldn't trade it for the world unless it was for one day to teach a teen that being a mommy is the hardest thing anyone could ever do!

Answer 6

I was a teen when i had my baby. Not thinking of what i got my self into but i love my daughter and would not change the past. My Friend sat down with me and we started talking about how much things are going to change. I thought it would be so cute and awesome having a baby before i had my daughter i didnt really have a child hood b/c i was always taking care of my neices and nephews b/c my sister would do anything for them cause she was in drugs at the time. so i figured what the hell is the diffrents i couldnt give them back to there mom i was call there mom. but know after having my daughter she means the world to me and her dad.
I started thinking of how much everything was going to change well, i lost all my friends i thought i had, i dropped out of school b/c my teacher didnt want me there i was called names. I cant go any where unless i have a babysitter. Baby stuff is a lot of money and now days it so hard to work , to pay a babysitter and still come up with rent money and feed the baby even being with the baby father somestimes.
Some teens think i have no one to love me and a baby will always love me. some just think it way to get out of school or think its way to keep there boyfriends with them. Guys come and go, i just got lucky my baby father is my husband now. teen just dont think of how much work, money, time, no time for your slef anymore,and nothing is about you anymore!

Answer 7

I completely accept as true with you. that's ridiculous how youthful females are while they have toddlers. I unquestionably think of any age under 21 is purely too youthful. toddlers are having toddlers. i think of a few females purely desire somebody to love because of the fact they are actually not getting interest at homestead and a few females purely decide to have intercourse and do not know the outcomes. As an adolescent females decide to do issues that are taboo or purely decide to have relaxing so as that they have got intercourse without protection and finally end up pregnant. In some severe faculties I actual have actual heard women human beings say that's cool to be pregnant. that's absurd! females might desire to end college, cling out with their acquaintances, have relaxing and have a occupation earlier having a newborn. a newborn is a huge accountability. females don't understand what they're getting themselves into. i think of that's ridiculous. If teenage females are going to have intercourse then they might desire to apply protection or get on start administration. i'm 23 years previous and nonetheless have not been pregnant because of the fact not purely have I been on start administration for 6 years yet i know that i'm not financially waiting yet.

Answer 8

They are looking for someone to love them unconditionally. They obviously don't have or think they don't have that kind of love in their lives--they may have messed up families or whatnot. The reason they don't realize that they can't love a child if they can't care for them properly is because THEY are children themselves.

I don't know how you fix it other than to get these girls a reality check--like they do on Maury or Montel---and have the kids take care of a child for about 24 hours and see how much work it is. I wish I knew the answer. You do bring up a very interesting point.

Answer 9

I am 18 and pregnant, but by no means did i try to get pregnant, i was on birth control , but was stupid and didnt use a condom.

The girls are young and naive, they dont understand dont realize the things they need to. luckily i have a good bf and the most wonderful parents to support me and basically make up for my mistake. no child is a mistake and like you say should not be treated like one. I agree with you completely

teenagers just need to be better educated, peoplle like you who actually show a concern for teen pregnancy, should speak out like you are doing now.

Answer 10

I worked with a girl who was 18 and she had an 8 month old at the time. She was a lucky one the baby's father took care of them but she did yell and was mean to the baby it always bothered me. It kills me to see that people don't seem to think that babies feel.