2007-01-16 11:46:00 · 21 answers · asked by mcat 5 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It's ok is you rotate them. My son was my fav for a while and then my daughter was my fav for a while.
Or one is your fav. dish washer and one is your fav. yard helper.
How can you not equally love every child that you carried under your heart for nine months.
Every child is going to try you. That child can become the least fav for a short period of time, but then allow them the chance to become your most fav at another time.
This is what a mature mother does.
So, grow, mature and be good to all of your children.
Just remember, what goes around comes around.
2007-01-16 12:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Only by the grace of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have a favorite, just don't tell the other two kids, or let it show. Treat them all equally, and don't ever say ," Why can't you be like (name of favorite kid)?" because that will make them resentful. And if you do have a favorite, you guys could designate some day of the week or month, in which you two could do something special together. ( depending on age). I hope that this will help!
P.S. You should try to get in a day with your other two children so that they don't feel left out!
2007-01-16 11:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Chicken Dancer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already have a favorite, so nothing you can do now about it.
The kids will know that in time or sense it anyway. Hopefully the other parent or grandparents will have other children for favorites, so this will make things ok.
Only one advice: be very careful never to favor your favorite with words, gifts or similar.
2007-01-16 19:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by BataV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three sons all are different I love them all .the oldest is a rock can do anything, the second one has a big .heart and is good with computers. the third one needs help I dont have a favorite because they all love me and help me when ever i need it . And their hearts are full of love,maybe because you can talk to one differently you might think that one is your favorite.As they grow they change, the older you get you well see their isnt really a favorite.
2007-01-16 12:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by clego25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be unfair but I doubt if you can help it.
I am not speaking from experience as I do not have any children, but I was once a boarding house master and often had to deal with large numbers of kids.
They would fall in and out of my likes and dislikes as they did some stupid and some good things.
I liked them all, but sometimes I would find myself having a favorite amongst them.
2007-01-16 12:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how you imply favorite. Is it general - as in she is my favorite child? Or does she nothing but favorable traits? Do your other children have favorable traits? If so... then maybe you're just wording it incorrectly. Playing favorites can have a large influence on your childs perception of you as a parent and as a friend. Becareful what you say around them. If you wish to keep it to yourself, then it is you who must look within to determine if it is 'right' or not.
2007-01-16 11:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kermit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its not really right or wrong. although, its kinda mean to favor one of your children over the others, its human nature to judge others and form opinions. just like u get along better with some of your friends and co-workers better than others, u will probably get along with some of your children better than others just because u have similar interests or personalities or you just have more fun together. But you still have to treat all your children equally and love them all as if they were all your favorite.
2007-01-16 12:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither right nor wrong, just is.
But never, ever tell your children that you do have a favorite.
Treat them all differently (because they're all different), but share your love and time equally overall (because at different times some kids will need/want more from you, some will need/want less).
Peace
2007-01-16 13:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by zingis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not very nice but it is impossible not to. They're people to as people they are individuals. Some have better qualities than the others. Don't let it be known but it's perfectly okay to secretly have a favorite.
2007-01-16 13:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by no name brand canned beans 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth unless you're the only child i think all parents have favorites. of course they wont admit because they don't want their other children thinking they're not good enough for their mothers. it's usually the oldest child whose the favorite but to answer your question i would say yes
2007-01-16 12:22:47 · answer #10 · answered by jdukenumber1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋