MY boyfriend is mad when I am like not with him all the time and thts not true cuz i am wlasy with him and when i go off to do something he calls and he is like are you mad whats wrong and then we get in a huge arguement over WHY we arent together EVERY MOMENT. Bt see when he is watching sports on TV like i dont mind i let him have his time but when i want to do soemhting on my own (with my girlfriends( he gets mad cuz his other firend says thts i cheat n him with other guys!how stupid! what should i do? Oh and dont tell me to break up with him cuz he is too sweet and i love him.
2007-01-16 11:43:25 · 7 answers · asked by Haley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He obviously doesn't trust you.
You need to sit down and let him know what you are feeling and that if he gets time with his friends it is only fair that you get time with yours.
He is trying to control you, this isn't about love, but control.
2007-01-16 11:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by ajtheactress 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's insecure and has some control issues. You said you don't want to break it off with him, which is fine, things like this can be overcome with some patience. While avoiding an arguement because that won't get either of you anywhere talk with him about this and say what you feel, and if he respects you at all he'll listen. And about his friends thinking your cheating, that's a bunch of horseshit, make him 'feel' what you feel for him so his friends comments don't get to him, ease his mind so he's not so paranoid whenever your not there all the time. Good relationships need some space because if you're with one another 24/7 you get on eachothers nerves and the relationship begins to crumble. You need to be your own person even though your together, it's not healthy at all to be wrapped up with eachother all the time. So just talk to him about what your thinking and feeling is all i can suggest you do. Best of luck.
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2007-01-16 19:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by shortii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your last line limits your options and you really need to think about what is best for you.
It sounds like he is jealous and insecure, as well as being controlling. I am not sure of why you would want to deal with this instead of having someone who trusts you, which is what a relationship should be based on.
What you are describing is a one-way relationship. He can do what he wants, but you can not do what you want.
I would suggest that you seek professional help to deal with your relationship with him. It seems like you are asking for words to justify your continuing to do what you are doing and there is a reason why you want to limit all the options, but I think you really know what to do, but just don't want to do it.
2007-01-16 20:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ghost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know how you feel....Because if you are with someone every waking second it wont work out because at some point you need your own space.....So just tell him how you feel, and if he wants to argue about it just tell him you cant talk to him until y'all can really discuss this matter without arguing...Good luck
2007-01-16 19:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by lovher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way he's acting is not sweet. It could get dangerous. Break up before it gets that bad. Even if you love him.
2007-01-16 19:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him girl. He is showing signs of becoming a man that will abuse his wife. there is no love there if he can't trust you and if his friends word means more to him then yours . He does not love yo
2007-01-16 19:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm yeah my dad was really "sweet" to my mom...
He abused her for 10 years....
almost killed her..
im sure u think " Naw he wont do that to me"
so did my mom
and guess what?
ur bf acts just like my dad...
good luck!
2007-01-16 19:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋