A young wife and mother of one has been stuggling with intimacy with her husband. She loves her husband but has continually been drawn to another man she new before they met instead of him. She and this man had a romatic relationship before but over time it morphed into a fulfilling friendship that she kept secret from her husband. Though she loves her husband she also has deep feelings for this man and cannot seem to stop contacting him. She is struggling with letting this man go and move on with her future. A year ago the husband discovered that she was in contact with him, was angry but still took her back. Recently it was discovered that she had not stopped speaking to him when she said she did. The husband is stuggling with serious trust issues and the wife just wants to get past it and move to thier future but admittedly is apprehensive about being able to let him go. She cites the husbands lack of romance and sense of style as a mitigating factor. What is your opinion on this??
2007-01-16 11:33:47 · 5 answers · asked by Magnus01 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The wife can cite anything as her mitigating factor. The REAL fact is: She is untrustworthy. She is ruining her marriage. She doesn't have any intention of quitting the affair...YES, if she's obsessing over some guy, she IS having an affair.
Why did the wife hide the relationship with the other man all this time? And even after she was found out, and PROMISED to stop seeing him, she LIED
She doesn't love anyone but herself.
Ifeel sorry for the husband and her innocent child. They are the ones being hurt. She can't possibly be thinking of their welfare at this time. She's selfish.
PERIOD.
2007-01-16 11:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she will always be able to find an excuse to cheat and act immature. he is right not to trust her, as it is evident to him she has yet to end it with the other man. he was good enough to take her back and forgive it, but isn't able to trust because she refuses to end it with the other man. he is fighting an endless battle, as there will always be a reason, she will always be able to find a fault in him that will be her defense for her wrongdoing. she wants to live in a fantasy world, one that can't stand up To what is real, husband can't compete with lies the new man tells to win her over and make her his. wife is looking for the knight in shining Armour, perfect in every way, but she will never be able to find him, as he does not exist. yes there will always be a fault found with the poor husband, who loves her unconditionally. but if he were smart and would stop fighting this, and accept it, and just let her have the other man, she thinks is so romantic, she may come home once she sees reality. there needs to be consequences here.husband needs to draw the line, let her leave, let her be with him, and than decide when she comes crawling back, if he even still wants her back. because by this time husband will have had time to think it over, and once he regains his self worth, he may not want to deal with such a problem.
2007-01-16 19:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she has been honest about not being able to let go, so he needs to decide if this is something that he is willing to deal with. If not then let her go so he can stop feeling miserable.
2007-01-16 20:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lola C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is loose in the caboose.
2007-01-16 19:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her go
2007-01-16 19:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by green_tractor_man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋