I am 39 and have thought about gay sex since i was 15 but occasionally think of straight sex too. I have dated girls and some have thought i was gay for some reason. i have watched gay porn before and i have found it arousing. I was even with a guy sexually and found that arousing. I want a girlfreind because i still think women are hot but my female relationships never really workout.....i have only had three girlfreind in my life most just like me as a freind. it seems like guys are into me more. whenever i get rejected by a woman i think of being with guys instead. not sure whats going on here
2007-01-16 11:29:57 · 5 answers · asked by make_me_sweat_692002 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe you feel that being with a female is more socially acceptable and you may very well just be gay. Have you ever tried a relationship with another male? If not, why? Are you afraid of being judged or do you not feel this is something you want to do? There is a big difference between these two scenarios? You will realize yourself one day when you find that person be it male or female that you truly want to spend the rest of your life with? You also may just very well be bi-curious and this involves pure fantasy with wanting to go no further than that. This by the way is completely normal and many heterosexuals find it as just a fantasy arousing. Hope this helps.
2007-01-16 11:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually people who claim to be "bisexual" say that they fall in love with the person, not the gender. It wouldn't matter if that person was male or female. They're in love with who that person is inside.
Since you are talking more about physical attraction it sounds more like an identity issue.
You say girls are hot but you think mostly about gay sex(I am deriving this based on you claim to only "occasionally think of straight sex").
Of the two genders women generally are the more aesthetically pleasing to look at (don't get me wrong, there are definitely some hot men out there) but being able to recognize beauty is completely different from feeling sexual attraction.
I agree, girls are hot, however, I am sexually attracted to men.
You say you were with a guy sexually and found it arousing. Were you aroused with the girls? If yes was it more than with the guy?
There are straight people who get off on watching gay porn just like there are people who get off on doing it in public or watching someone else.
You say the girls reject you and you think of being with a guy instead. Is this because you feel more attracted to men or because you're tired of rejection from women and always seem to have the men's acceptance?
2007-01-16 20:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by dovey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not bisexuality actually exists is open for debate. Some people believe that sexuality lies on a continuum, that you can be totally gay or totally straight, but that most people are somewhere in between. And even those who are in between tend to show a preference one way or the other. Being right in the middle, if it exists, is probably rare. Other people believe that bisexuality is just something made up by people who are homosexual, but don't want to admit it. There have been some recent studies to suggest some basis for this belief. In my completely unprofessional opinion, it sounds like, in your case, you may be having difficulties dealing with a sexual preference that is upsetting to you. 24 years of thinking about guys and gay sex probably means something. Perhaps you owe it to yourself to explore this aspect of your sexuality. Maybe you need to give yourself permission to do that. If you do and you find you are still interested in women as well as men, then you can deal with being bisexual. But there is probably a good chance that you will decide that women just aren't for you. Good luck.
2007-01-16 19:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by c'mon, cliffy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this question with absolute certainty. From what you described you sound bisexual. However 'bi today, queer tomorrow' or something like that. You wont meet a bisexual 80 year old. At some point people make a decision to be either gay or straight. You are bisexual for a while, then, eventually, you figure out what truly makes you happy. I think it all depends on who you end up falling in love with. A lot of it had to do with what you are comfortable telling your family and friends as well. But as I said in the beginning, only you know the true answer to this question. You know in your heart what it is you want. Maybe it's buried, but if you dig and are completely honest with yourself, you will know.
2007-01-16 19:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by sunnydayzd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when theres an attraction to the same sex
2007-01-16 21:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by DeathNote 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋