We have been married for a little over a year, we have AMAZING sex, at least, at the very least once a day. He's being very selfish because I for one am very good looking, I'm a part time model and a make-up artist. I do anything sexually he wants and give him whatever he wants. Is It Me?
2007-01-16 11:29:18 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its a man thing and nothing to do with how much he loves or desires you. Women will never understand because men can never explain their interest in porn. It has absolutely no bearing or impact on their affection or love for their partner.
2007-01-16 11:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by sensa 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, it's not you. If you're nice looking and open minded in the bedroom, why does a man need any more than that?
There's porn and there's porn. But the question I have is why is he looking at porn in a way that is disturbing to you? It's not abnormal for a man to look at porn but he should do it tactfully. Sounds like a sex addict. You can expect more sexual impropriety from him. This is also very disrespectful.
Come on, you already know this isn't you. You really don't need for the rest of us to tell you that.
You really need to read up on sexual addiction and figure out what you can do to keep your own life from going off the deep end. This doesn't sound good at all.
2007-01-16 20:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He definitely has so much sexual fantasies and you are the living venus. It shouldn't alarm you because it has nothing to do with his level of affection or love towards you. There are men whose libido is just extremely high.
Sex can become a problem when it occupies majority of your married life. It can come to a point wherein he sees you solely as an object of fantasy and not as a wife or a mother-to-be. However, it can be common amongst newlyweds because the excitement is very much alive.
If all that he has in mind is just sex then you two better see a therapist for counseling. A marriage that is sex-bound will not be very beneficial and healthy.
2007-01-16 19:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by nomamalin 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Look this is NOT about Sex. this is an addiction. You need to stage an intervention and get him in to a good counsellor. Treat it like it is alcoholism. Don't bring anything into the house that is border line, like The Swimsuit Issue of Sports Illistrated or a victoria secret catalog. You need to be very wearry of the shows you watch on TV. Also put parental controls on your internet and TV. I know it sounds childish, but real men don't look at porn. I would just treat it like it is an addiction. Be tough but still love him. Chances are this was going on before you were married. If he loves you, he will do what it takes to stop.
No Matter what anyone tells you, this is not a noraml MAN thing. Men who respect women don't look at porn. It is disrespectful and degrading for him to do this.
PLease don't have children until you know for sure that he has kicked this problem and that you have a good solid marriage.
I hate to say it, but in my case I could not get mine to stop looking at it, it was a problem that started in his teen years. Porn coupled with a Drinking problem DID ruin my marraige. This is why I say no kids until it is resolved, then you don't have to put children through the heartache of divorce.
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Don't listen to most of the people on here. Porn is wrong. It is degrading and disrespectful of ALL the women in his life. I am sure he would not want his mother, sisters or daughters doing that, so why is it okay for him to look at someone elses mother sister or daughter? Most of the men who answered this are just a bunch of sick pervs. I know a lot of good decent men who RESPECT women anad don't look at porn. REAL MEN see women as more than a fantasy and a sex object.
2007-01-16 19:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
hello,
well i have to be on the mens side....sorry hun but what does it hurt for him too LOOK at the tv or what ever you got to watch porn on....get for real have more confidence in your self.......he cannot touch them girls and they cannot touch him so wha are you jealous of they are all fake and besides that maybe where he gets his ideas from in the sex department did you ever think of that one....why don't you join in and do a screen roll beings your a part time modle....you need to open up a little and not be so uptight......just because he likes to LOOK at porn does not make him a cheater and the jealousy needs to stop he will never meet them people in a life time....and he is at home with you at least instead of prowling the streets cheating on you.....and besides men think of sex more than women and just maybe his mind needs the stimulation when you can't give it too him.....be a woman and love your self in stead of being jealous of things he can't even talk too in real life....
2007-01-16 19:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men don't seem to understand how most women feel about porn after marriage. I do' You wonder what he sees in that -that he doesn't see in you. You wonder why he gives himself to that instead of you. Why does he give himself to something he can't hold when you are right there. You also wonder why he gives his load to porn and not you. He needs help. If he doesn't get it the porn will eventually split you up. Seek pro help before it's to late.
2007-01-16 19:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
have you ever thought maybe the amazing sex is partly due to things he learns watching porn. He will only find the need to hide it if you think it is not ok.Join him you may enjoy.At least try before considering it bad it could be good, you are married there is nothing bad about it.
2007-01-16 19:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by lifehappens82 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, my stance is this. If I'm horny and want some then he'd better not be off lookin at porn and neglecting me. Now if I'm satisfied and have no interest in more then have fun honey! But seriously, it can be bothersom...but I just step back and look at the big picture. Men are wired to want to see nekid women. sSo I've learned that if I can be OK with it then he's not going to hide it and I'd raher know about it then have him hide it. Ya know???
Why not snap some erotic photo's of YOU and stick them in his fav porn mag????
2007-01-16 19:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
its natural for men to look at porn and it has nothing to do with you-or in any way taking something from you.Although you dont really understand it-why allow it to be such a big problem-just let him have his small pleasure.I had a problem with my guy looking at it too once-until it got to the point he was hiding it around the house,and I was yelling at him like a mother-thats not my job..and the porn was none of my business either. If you want your marriage to work your going to have to learn to let the little things slide and allow your husband to be himself
2007-01-16 19:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No dear it is NOT u...that's womens' problem and that is probably why it is ruining your marriage cause u think it is u. U are obviously not insecure u know you're hot! The reason guys look at porn is cause it's all fantasy. And then he gives it to u! And on a regular basis! So don't fret girl he is probably just a freak who could probably go all day if he could...but that's just not realistic so he just looks when he can....it's ok
2007-01-16 19:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by JAY 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋