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Question

I am not ready to have a baby (money wise), I know that.

But ever month that comes around and my period comes I feel sad that I am not pregnant...

I take precautions so I don't get pregnant, but I still hold this faint hope. God, I know this sounds weird.

I just need to know if anyone feels the same way that I do, I need someone to relate to.

Answer 1

My mom always said "if you waited until you could afford children, you'd never have them..."
Are you really wanting a child in your life..or just something new and exciting? If you are married and both of you want one...why not!? You are being responsible for not wanting to have a child while you are not financially ready...but honestly...I didn't find having a child that expensive. I breast fed exclusively, we didn't buy expensive baby furniture that would have never gotten used. The only thing that cost us money was diapers...and we would buy in bulk and use coupons. We also never felt the need to buy every cute outfit we saw. I refused to go in debt (like some friends I have) buying name-brand clothes that were used for 2 months. Plenty of time for that when they're teenagers! So...if you have insurance...maybe you're ready...

Answer 2

I felt the same way about having my second child. But i am now 17wks pregnant. I belive that if we waited till we were finaclily stable, we would have never had a second child. I know we were not ready when i had my first child, but ya know what i got pregnent by accident ( thought i couldnt have kids) and we just made everthing work. When i got pregnant we were 18 living in my boyfriends tiny bedroom at is mothers house, could not even support ourselves. But within three months we had our own apartment, a reliable car (didnt really look pretty but it got us to and from), and by the time the baby came we had everything we need. Without any assistance from the government (welfare, social service exct) I am not saying that we didnt ever struggle we have, but we always seemed to fid a way to make it work. My 22 year old husband now works 2 full time jobs, so we can make it work. I am not saying thats how most people should do it, but most of america lives paycheck to paycheck, and can still support there kids. Its not all about the phyical possions you can give them but the love and guidence.

Answer 3

I understand also. There is some sort of switch inside women and one day, we want a baby. You sound like you are thinking responsibly though because you realize that the time isn't right and you are taking precautions. Stay patient and the time will come when your ready to have the baby and are able to take care of it comfortably. In the mean time, enjoy your freedom of not being tied down with children.

Answer 4

when i was 17 i knew i'd met the right person that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with and we started trying for a baby. although we both still lived with our parents we both worked but weren't financialy secure. when 7 months down the line i found out i was pregnant it was very hard because i was rushed into hospital with cramps at 7 weeks. everything was alright but my doc advised that i give up work then not long after my bf lost his job but we coped it wasn't an ideal situation but we made the most out of it and we now have 2 children its not something i would encourage but it can work. my kids have everything they need and a lot of things they want but i'll say this. it takes a lot of help and support from friends and family. so if your not ready emotionally for the hardships that come with this situation id say keep using the protection.

Answer 5

I know what you mean exactly. I have the same feeling. I have been with my fiance for a long time I really want a child with him really bad but financially we are not ready. Just know that one day it with happen it may be hard now but when it happens you will be glad you waited. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I use to feel that way. You've lost the feeling of love. You need something to take care of that won't cost you a lot money. I say get a puppy or babysit for a friend once and a while.You'll be doing yourself and your friends a favor (you may even get some money out of it).

Answer 7

I understand. However, if you wait until you think you are completely financially secure, you will never have a baby. I thought the same way you do. If you really want a baby, you will find a way to make it work. Also, just be sure you have good insurance----that helps a ton.

Answer 8

Its that damn biological clock. The survival of the species is coming alive. It drove me nutty as its NOT at all logical!

You'll get through it. I promise, it started for me when I was 22! I'm now 26 and 16 weeks pregnant.

Answer 9

I understand completely. What I did was spend two years researching everything about pregnancy and childbirth and hanging out on some pregnancy groups online.

Worked for me and saved me from some unnecessary and dangerous tests/procedures when pregnant.

Answer 10

i guess i feel that way too. i have one child, who is two and want another one sometime soon, but we have alot going on right now and it is just not a good time. but, when i find out other people who are close to me are pregnant, i feel a slight twinge of jealousy. not that i am mad at them, i just wish it was me even though the reason i'm not pregnant is my choice.