Im 14 years ld and it seems like my parents hate me, they avoid me at all costs, they yell at me for doing nothing to them, they never listen to me, and my life at home is Miserable, but when ever were with extended family or family friends, they act like im a little angel and they'de never stop loving me. I know this family and i go to there house often because i feel loved and respected for who i am there, they pretty much consider me family, and I did go live with them for a week over the summer, i love theses people with my whole heart and feel like thats where im supposed to be. I cant take my house any more, i cant take my parents, what can i do?? please help me, ive felt like this since last May!
2007-01-16 11:19:05 · 10 answers · asked by Me 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would demand a hug except its gotten so bad that i feel horrible after they touch me adn sometimes i even start crying because i dont want them to touch me and i just feel like it was an invasion of my space and contaminated!
2007-01-16 11:30:39 · update #1
Help Your Children to Thrive
~ Harsh Words--Crushed Spirits
~ Parents Under Pressure
~ Help Your Children to Thrive
http://watchtower.org/library/g/1997/8/8/article_01.htm
The Problems of Children ... :
- An Ongoing Search for Solutions
- Children Deserve to be Wanted and Loved
- The Solution at Last! - Help for Young People
- The UN Declaration of the Rights of the Child
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/8/article_01.htm
CHILD CUSTODY--What Is the Balanced View? :
~ What Is in the Child's Best Interests?
~ Child Custody--A Balanced View
http://watchtower.org/library/g/1997/12/8/article_01.htm
You could share this set of articles with anyone you want to ask for help, including your parents. It says a LOT, itself. You need to speak assertively --not accusingly-- of, or, to them.
(NOTE : Each of these URLs will likely be modified soon. After that, each sub-title can be entered in the Advanced Search engine at : http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm , which will give you a link with the new URLs.)
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2007-01-16 17:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still remember when I was 14. I hated my parents as well and always hung out at my friends house for the same reason. I know exactly what your feeling, but you want to know something? I really love my parents now infact I can say that my mom is one of my best friends. Your just at an akward age right now, not a child anymore, but not a grown up either. All I can say is to hang in there, its only a few more years. Good Luck
2007-01-16 19:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by beaner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to act the way you want your parents to act. Do this slowly and do not become discouraged.
Begin with regular acts of affection. Hugs and touching. Stop defending your rights for a while. You will see the loss is very small after all.
Ask you parents for affection, demand a hug. This signaling can help waken them up to the knowledge that you are a deeply feeling person that wants to be recognized.
2007-01-16 19:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your parents about this. If not them, then your school counselor. Someone to discuss how you feel. Thank the other family for loving you and enjoy them. I know some parents are just bad parents. How long has this been going on? What do you think triggered it? These are questions to try and think about. I don't know what else to suggest. Wish you had better parents sweetie.
2007-01-16 19:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by Crazy 4 Cats! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry about your feelings of hurt. Are you the only child? What do you mean by "avoiding you"? What are the circumstances in which they yell at you..did something happen in May?...
If you have a counselor at school you must go there. Sometimes it is best to talk to someone neutral on a continuous basis.
2007-01-16 19:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by DaveMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.... most kids your age feel this way. I have a 12 year old and she agrees. Her and I get along for the most part but I know she still feels misunderstood most of the time because of all the changes going on in your bodies.
It will pass..... just be upfront and honest with yourself and your parents.
My daughter would love to Yahoo chat if you are interested AlexCutiepie94
2007-01-16 19:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by blndchik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well I had that problem once to and now my parents love me.Well first you should tell your friend and her parents about it thier parents might talk to them and things might change. If not make sure you try to talk to them yourself even if they dont listen and even if they do hit you dont yell you must gain there trust and be friends with them and if not go to a counseler it may be boring but it might solve the problem and if not then i would suggest trying to stay with your friends for as long as you can and I hope this answered your questiond and maybe we can be friends.
2007-01-16 19:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by Daydream 999 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you tell your parents just what you have told me. They may totally unaware of what is going on and most certainly don't know how you feel. When all is going pretty good, ask if you may talk with them. Then start by saying "I need to tell you how I feel". This should get their attention. Good Luck
2007-01-16 19:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make them sit down and listen to what you have to say. If you want to live with this family, you should tell them. Tell your parents whats wrong, how you feel, and what you need them to do to make the best of your life at home...you only get one life, so make the best of it. I wish you the best!
2007-01-16 19:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by 1tuffcookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They love you. You are growing up & changing. They don't know what to make of it.
2007-01-16 19:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Becky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋