ive heard that 90% of the time women dont get off while having sex. How true is this? Because my husband seems to think i have a problem. and what can i do to make our marriage better or to make him happier?
2007-01-16 11:17:26 · 21 answers · asked by Babyxgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have never orgasmed through intercourse, but there are other ways....
2007-01-16 11:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sad statistic! First, I think that 90% is way too high. You need to ask yourself some serious questions.
Do you think you have a problem or do you think your husband doesn't try that hard? Are there other issues that are stressing you out keeping you from relaxing and enjoying sex? Has it always been that way? What were your experiences before you married your husband?
You ask what you can do to make him happy. That's an honorable question but what about you? Don't you deserve sexual satisfaction?
Work on this with you husband. There are many good books out there and maybe he just needs a few pointers.
2007-01-16 19:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say thats Bull and Girl, you're going to do yourself a disservice if you start faking it. DO NOT FAKE IT. Then he'll think he actually did the deed. Now, me? I had my first O by myself before I was ever married...and by the time I did get married I knew how to finish. So, in my marital bed I've always finished, matter of fact, I always have more than one. That is standard. But I do have a gf who has never finished with her hub but can by herself. I tell her her prob is she relys on vibes too much which will desensatize you and then you wont be finishing without the vibes ever.
Now...if you're the one who isn't finishing why are you asking what you can do to make HIM happier?!?!??! Seems he should be in here asking for tips on how to make you finish.
I suggest you get some soft erotica to read....stimulate the mind and the body will follow.
2007-01-16 19:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first not all women get there the same way you have to experiment to find what works for you and that means your husband needs to be more open to your needs You have to be comfortable with each other and able to discuss thing good sex doesn't start in the bedroom and it doesn't always mean you have an orgasm just relax and enjoy all the sensations
2007-01-16 19:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by pokey's gumby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an orgasm during sex. Not ALL the time, but most of the time. I think my orgasm is my responsibility, so I do things that encourage it. Husband helps of course.
Most women can not achieve orgasm with just penis to vagina sex. It takes more than that for most women. Also a man can achieve orgasm in 2-5 mins of sex, usually it takes women 10-20 mins of sex to get there. It takes us longer, so that is why foreplay is so very essential.
2007-01-16 19:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is very true....however, 90% of women dont get off w/ sex alone - we NEED direct stimulation to the clitoris. Is he good at oral sex?? My suggestion would be to try masturbation to learn what feels good to you w/ ur fingers or a vibrator and then you can tell him or show him. That should improve things. GOOD LUCK to you!
2007-01-16 19:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Enough 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*puttin on my fake boobs and wig*
Have you ever tried pleasuring yourself? Do YOU know how to get yourself off? If you don't, I suggest that you take some time out and figure your body out.
I've heard of that statistic, and it is true, but you left one part out:
90% of the time, women don't get off FROM INTERCOURSE ALONE.
Does your husband pleasure you with his hands? Does he find all of the little erogenous spots on the small of your back, the nape of your neck?
There are two kinds of lovers: The attentive lover, whose goal is to make you moan and heave until your head hits something (the headboard in a bed, but it's different for different locations), and the sexbot, who will thrust his hips in and out like a robot for a total of 30 seconds before he cums, rolls over and goes to sleep regardless of how you are feeling.
Alright, I got completely off track, but simple two set plan.
1) Find out how to make yourself ***.
2) Next time you are making love, guide his hands where you want them. Hopefully he will pick up on your reaction and realize that this is a good thing to be doing.
2007-01-16 19:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the 1 to tell him but he is the 1 with the problem. All women can have a orgasm. It's all in how in tune he is with you and how much he is willing to listen to what you tell him.
2007-01-16 19:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be as high as 90% but there are a lot of women who don't have a orgasm during intercourse but there are other ways.
2007-01-16 19:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i usually close my eyes and imagine someone i'd rather have sex with...it sounds cruel, but if youonly knew what i have been through, you'd understand. CLOSE THE EYES and pretend it's someone you admire. it works for me and keeps both of us content. sex is funny at the age of 30, you have to work with what makes you feel good, and if it's fantasizing about another man, so be it!
2007-01-16 19:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mexi Can 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've heard alot that 80% of women don't get off by sex, it takes clitoral stimulation
2007-01-16 19:23:18 · answer #11 · answered by k_princess84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋