My problem is that a few years ago when i was in high school, three people were heckling me , two of them were students that were mean, the other was a really mean aid that isn't as nice as most instructional aids , just before i graduated high school, the mean aid, heckled a student in my transistion class at work , in which i thought that it was wrong of her to do , i thought that she should have kept her mouth shut ,but unfortunately, the aid didn't , she kept on whining on and on like a cuckoo clock ,
under my acount , i was trying to help the person who was sad
unfortunately, it was the stupid heckling from the aid that made everyone upset
everything is like a puzzle with these bullies
what should happen since they unfortunately caused a student to cry , and made everyone at work ticked off at the aid
2007-01-16 11:07:39 · 9 answers · asked by aaronj2004 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
unfortunaley we can nnot control other peoples actions, but is there some way of giving her a punishment of some kind.? suspended or make her take an absent of leave for her conduct?
she should know that what she has doneis wrong, and therefoe she should have to pay the price..
2007-01-24 10:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to a trusted teacher or counselor? If a teacher doesn't believe you, find another, and another until someone handles this sad situation. You need to let someone in authority deal with these bullies, especially the one that's paid to be there!
No one deserves to be treated like that. NO ONE!
Bullies usually have very low self-esteem and have to push smaller, weaker, more vulnerable people around in order to feel good about themselves. They are frequently picked on at home by a parent or older sibling but this does not excuse them.
2007-01-16 11:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, the ONLY thing a person can do with a bully is either move to another city or stand up to them. There are no other alternatives. A bully is not going to just go away, he has to be met toe to toe.
2007-01-16 13:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
bullies are based on the main idea that they feel bad about themselves and trashing others gives them the power trip they seek..the aid needs to get a real life and support kids not trash them.
2007-01-20 15:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by tazbadass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"How can secure ourselves from verbal abuse"? Is this what you're asking?
I recommend you to go to an "assertiveness training", or even better, become a trainer in this field.
I recommend you these book:
When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel Smith
http://www.amazon.com/When-Say-No-Feel-Guilty/dp/0553263900/sr=1-3/qid=1168993579/ref=sr_1_3/102-0560877-8864143?ie=UTF8&s=books
These one is quite useful too:
The Complete Idiot's Guide to Verbal Self-Defense by Lillian Glass
http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Idiots-Guide-Verbal-Self-Defense/dp/0028627415/sr=8-1/qid=1168993493/ref=sr_1_1/102-0560877-8864143?ie=UTF8&s=books
2007-01-16 11:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ronald Vexa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the bully sees that you are not scared of them.. They will move on! So.. Stand up to him
2007-01-22 17:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ignore it and walk away. And if that doesn't work just try compromising and becoming friends with them. I mean it's worth a shot.
2007-01-16 11:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by J~Dogg 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would say pretend like it doesn't bother you. Some people get off when they make others feel bad, and just remember what comes around goes around.
2007-01-16 11:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by hairbands_fan 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
eliminate them by force.
2007-01-24 10:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by user name 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋