when we open the menu there is a special . chili 6.99 . she says oh that looks good "I will have the chili". I'm next and I order a hot beef panani served with a cup of soup and a salad. the other's all order the chile. Mine is 12.99/ when we are served a co worker says "oh Mary, dont you like chili?" I say no, I dont care for it. Then another co-worker says "yop dont know wha's good" and the other says "You dont know hat you are missing? What goes on here.? It felt very hostile. What should I have said?
2007-01-16 11:04:18 · 6 answers · asked by Nora 7 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
You were the only one not kissing up. Good job. What you said is perfectly fine.
2007-01-16 11:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To have said nothing in response, was the best course. I'd have felt offended as well, had I been in your situation. "You don't know what's good" sounds pretty rude to me, in that context, and does not rate the respect of an answer. It looks like maybe your co-workers, being sycophants, ordered what the boss ordered in hopes of securing, or keeping, approval. Or for fear of incurring disapproval. Hopefully, if it ever comes to that, your boss will perceive that self-assuredness and skill with people is far more valuable than impetuous words and self-serving behavior. You don't like chili; that's no one else's business, and you did the right thing, it seems. The difference in price of the meals should be inconsequential, unless your boss totally had his/her head screwed on wrong.
2007-01-16 19:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by JackN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't like chili, don't worry about. And don't plan to go back with the same group unless everyone is going dutch. Most people just like for people to like what they like. If you don't, don't make excuses, just politely state your preferences and go on to the next topic. If you are at least a little adventurous, you may try something like "Oh, is it really that good? Excuse me, waiter. I think I'll have the chili after all. I didn't realize it was such a specialty here."
2007-01-16 19:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by Carter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in similar circumstances being the only one not to order the same thing at the table. I just smile and let them know that I don't care for the other item so that is why I ordered something else. I also let them know that they are missing out on what it is I'm having!
2007-01-16 19:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by hr4me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can order what you like, maybe they are all into chili. Don't feel weird, just say you don't like chili, or it upsets your stomach. It seems like they are going there for the daily special? You don't have to follow the crowd, and don't feel bad for being your own person.
2007-01-16 19:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by What_A_Gass 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have advised them that you enjoy making independent decisions. The boss would have appreciated it.
2007-01-16 19:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋