3 kids wanting another!!!?

Question

Im 23 and my hubby is27...We have 7 girl & 2 year old and 8 month old boys. Were wanting 1 more! People say were crazy because kids cost so much these days! we are financially stable, I stay at home while he works, and we love kids!
He has a job that he will be able to retire from with making at least $30 hour. We will have vehicles paid off and gonna build us a house in 2 years! I think we are doing great finanically! no debt to worry about! I just think big families are underated these days! He has a very close family and I want my own to be like that when I'm old! Well What do you think! Serious people only please!!!!

Answer 1

Tiffanny, How I wish you were either my daughter or daughter-in-law or a son or son-in-law!!!Children are a blessing and grandkids are even better.When your grandkids come along you will wish you could of had them first. My mother and father both had big families and I wish mom and dad had done the same.Now I just wish I had remaried sooner and had more kids. My wife and I weren't able to have anymore after problems with endometrious. YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND WANT MORE THAN GO FOR IT AND DAMN THE BUSYBODIES IN YOUR LIFE FOR TORPEDOING YOUR WANTS

Answer 2

Well I am the mom to 4 boys....ages 11, 9, 7 & 5. yes we love having a big family, but it is hard. And I will tell you when my guys were still babies I thought I could have a dozen it was so easy. Now they are all in school and have homework and play on sports teams...and I'll honeslty tell you it is so very hard!! Do you have any idea how hard it is to organise four different team schedules?? LOL But....having the 4th was easy compared to the others..so as far as that goes. No Problem.

As far as financially goes...30/an hour is really not a lot. I dont mean to burst ur bubble, but you must live in a very low cost of living area if that will sustain you guys. My biggest monthly bill is groceries. 4 gallons of milk last 5 days. 7 boxes of breakfast cereal will last, about 7 days. Shopping at wharehouse stores is my normal weekly shopping spot, and its family/bulk sizes will last me until the following week. Food, and the cost of it was the only thing I truly did not expect to be this high when we were planning our family. Its easy when they are babies and nursing and don't really *eat * that much... but look at the ages of my kids and already they eat about $300 a week in food. Wonder what it will be when they are 18, 16, 14 & 12??????


Anyway good luck with whatever you decide...

Answer 3

I think kids are great and if you want them and you can afford them then you shouldnt listen to people that say you are crazy. I also have a big family and I think its a wonderful thing! However, just think carefully before you do that, ok? $30/hr is not an incredible amount of money for a large family. Also, your children are still young. Pretty soon they will be older and wanting designer clothes, cell phones, computers, and cars. Also you need to think about their college education which is outrageously expensive. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

If you are able to provide for you kids, don't listen to all the negative people. I came from a big family and I've always been grateful for my siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles. I see the cycle being repeated too. My kids are all having kids and they love the fact that they have so much fun and support.
Just be sure your marriage is strong. These kiddies need both parents. Good luck and enjoy!

Answer 5

I am the youngest of 8 children. One of my sisters has 8, one sister has 6, and myself and my oldest sister each have 4. My parents (married for 58 years) have 38 grandchildren, and 5 great-grandchildren. So.....does that tell you what I think? Big families are wonderful!!

Don't worry about what everyone else says when it comes to planning your family!!! You will have several different opinions, and none of them appropriate. What you need to be sure of is......#1 that you and your husband agree on the # of children you have. #2 that you are financially able to care for them, #3 that your marriage is stable, loving and committed.

No one else lives within your four walls and no one else has the right to plan your future!! Best of luck to you and all of your beautiful babies!!!

Answer 6

I'm 29 and have a 6 year old, a 4 year old and 3 year old twins. Yes, 4 kids is alot of work but I wouldn't trade the life I've had w/ them for anything. Plus, I'd love to have just one more! Don't let other peoples opinions bring you down.

Answer 7

Listen honey WHO cares what other people think of you and of being a young mom with 3 and a half kids. There is only one thing that matters in all this that sound happy and you love your kids and man..... All i can tell you is congratulation's cause even older people who have thee right age are still not even stable to hold a house and a man down together. and all can say is your doing 2th. and that's great. good luck girl you n you family...God bless you all...

Answer 8

Go for it. I came from a large family and although we didn't have a lot of money, we had each other and valuable experiences with each other. Somehow we always made it through everything.

Some memories are funny, particularly when you get older and even the serious memories sometimes end up funny and we laugh together about them. Sometimes my sisters and mother remember things I've forgotten and vice versus and when they tell it, it starts coming back to me.

Sometimes were were mean to each other, but for us, we even enjoy remembering those times. I feel bad about some of the things I did to my sisters and I believe they have expressed the same to me, but I'm glad for the learning experiences and we learned to share and consider others even though we might not have always done it or wanted to.

We got to experience lots of things that smaller families might miss out on. Our dad passed away 3 years ago, but we have our memories.

Don't let others determine your decisions and your desires for your family. It's your life, your family.

Answer 9

I have 3 kids,16yrs 3yrs 1yr & one due in 2 weeks & all i can think of is a "VASECTOMY".Your only 23YRS your better off dealing with what your got & wait until your about 30yrs old then your eldest will be 14yrs & be able to help you alot more!!!! & i reckon the hubby is thinking VASECTOMY as you don't get to see & feel each other as much & the other thing missing "SLEEEEEP" & your husbands job,remember these words NOTHING LAST FOREVER, things can change in an instant (sickness-work closes down),so don't take anything for granted.

Answer 10

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