I want to be with my current boyfriend, but he is so hurt about the situation. We was not together when this happened we was broken up because of something that he did and I told myself i was through with him but I just couldn't let him go.
2007-01-16 11:02:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Wow, grow up. You have a baby to think about now, not yourself. Sorry, life sucks.
2007-01-16 11:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a decision that only you can make. The first thing that you need to do is decide whether or not you want this baby, regardless of who the father is. Once you have made the decision yourself, you should inform both the baby's father as well as your current boyfriend. If you don't want the baby's father to be in your child's life, let him know that you plan to raise the baby without him. If your current boyfriend really cares about you, he will forget the fact that the baby is not biologically his. Just because he's not the "father", doesn't mean he can't be the daddy. If he decides that he doesn't want to be with you, then you may be better off in the end. Don't think that you'll be going through raising the child alone, there are people that can help in any way you need it. Just follow your heart and put you and your child first.
2007-01-16 19:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by Toni5818 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost you need to think about yourself and the baby. Boys will come and go. I don't know how old you are or what your beliefs are but there are many options out there.
I think if your boyfriend truly loves you, he will love this child that is a part of you, should you decide to keep it. But what is most important is whether or not respects whatever decision you make based on what is best for you and the baby, NOT on him. I know it may not seem like it now, but guys are a dime a dozen. You only get so many opportunities to bring a baby into the world (unless of course you are super fertile).
Good Luck to you. I would seek the advise of a professional. Doctor. Therapist. Counselor. I don't know how old you are but Guidance Counselor, and there should be a pregnancy crisis center somewhere in your town that could help you as well.
2007-01-16 19:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his shoes. You two break up and suddenly he has a kid from some other girl he doesn't care enough to be with, just enough to have slept with, most likely without protection.
If you would want to take on the lifelong responsibility of raising a baby that's the product of a one night stand with an ex, then you are very forgiving. But not everyone is. Your boyfriend may not want you around anymore, both from the fact that you weren't respondsible about your protection and when you get really fat and he realizes the baby trap has been set and he's going to be paying/working to raise another mans child. He may blame you for that and hold bitterness and resentment.
Give him space and don't push it on him, he needs to come to the realization that he wants to be with you no matter what on his own.
2007-01-16 19:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is what do you think is important for the child to have. Let me tell you, I was in a very up and down relationship with someone years ago, and we got pregnant and I just thought, " there is no way I can let a child be born in a world where the relationship between its mom and dad are in termoil! So I had an abortion. That was six/seven years ago. I am now married to a wonderful man and hoping to get a positive test this Sat. I know this time I am more than happy to bring a child into this world that I live in that is filled with honesty, trust, love and dedication.
2007-01-16 19:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by ArtBaby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be honest with yourself and with your men. Life is a struggle and we are in 2007, so you are not the first woman this has happened to. You will survive it will take a lot of time to get yourself together but just think about your baby and what you need to do for your child. If your current man don't want you be alone and focus on your child and yourself (eat right, look good, smell good, just be good) and another man will want you and your child.
2007-01-16 19:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by lalagirly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl if u want your baby u could do it by your self u dont need him. u have to be a strong women n work hard for ur baby. its going to be hard but thats ur baby!!
2007-01-16 19:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by kasandra with a "k" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you should of used birth control.
Now you have to take responsibility for your actions and do the right thing.
2007-01-16 19:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by steph00steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THINK BEFORE U HAVE SEX!!!!!!!
get your life together! Gosh...there is a baby on the way!
2007-01-16 19:13:47 · answer #9 · answered by funnyzaza1993 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have the baby and let him raise it as his. You can put his name on the birth certificate even though its not his .what difference is it gunna make just don't tell the other guy.
2007-01-16 19:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋