dating a person with cancer at the moment, but should i marry him? whats my chance of happiness?
2007-01-16 10:59:20 · 24 answers · asked by tostosh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not sure if its terminal, the doctor was optimistic, but at the same time said he may not live past 10 years.
2007-01-16 11:11:38 · update #1
well i think it depends on his status....and well if you're thinking about marrying him,that means you truly care, and you probably should indeed go through with it, because he might beat it, and if there's love, i think is worth the risk, there's always the chance he won't beat it, but then you would've had the time together, and later on you'll see how it was worth it...
2007-01-16 11:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by no_bsht 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference is it if the cancer is terminal or not? If you were truly in love with him it would not matter if he had 5 days or 25 years. For that matter does any of us know how long we will live, NO! If you love him then be happy with the time there is. Live for today not tomorrow!
2007-01-16 11:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Garth Brooks wrote a song called "The Dance"...... Listen to it. The words say "I could have missed the pain but I would've missed the dance"........ awesome song.
If he did not have cancer... would you marry him? Even if he was well, he could die walking across the street or in an airplane. The cancer may kill him but what if he fully recovers?? You may well have years and years together. You will both face different challenges in your marriage than other couples. Cancer is horrible but together you two can conquer the world together.
If you love him MARRY HIM NOW. I would rather spend 1 month with the love of my life than a lifetime with a man I don't love.
Good Luck and Best Wishes.
2007-01-16 11:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if the cancer is terminal or curable. Not knowing that, be absolutely sure you are in love because this will be tough. If you do, the battle against cancer will be something you will have to go through together. It will make you closer, but it will take a lot of strength. If you are in love then you will make it, just like any couple. Best of luck to you and especially your man.
2007-01-16 11:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Smart Blonde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 06:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by marceau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if I were in love with that person and wanted to be there for them.
Anyway, you could get hit by a truck tomorrow and be disabled.
With regard to love - the fact that someone is healthy or not doesn't mean you love them more or less. Health is a continuum that can change at any time for ANY of us. Your future health is not guaranteed - even if you are healthy today.
Listen to your heart and it will send you on the path you should be on.
2007-01-16 11:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask a question such as this, please do not marry him. Please allow someone who will love him unconditionally. After all, true happiness comes from giving of ourselves to others. You would be doing him a huge favour by ending the relationship so he can find someone that will accept him warts, cancer and all. I'm not trying to be cruel, but rather practical for both you and him. Peace.
2007-01-16 11:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it would be scary, but boy, if you do really love them, what a gift you'd be giving them.
However, I think if you 2 had not been already leaning that way, make sure that you're doing it for the right reasons. Mercy is one thing, but pity is something else entirely.
2007-01-16 16:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes~~~~If I am in love with this person I am going to be more concerned about his happiness then my own. Chances of my happiness may be 50/50 ,so be it, we aren't promised tomorrow.
2007-01-16 11:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Terminal or non-terminal? I would not marry someone with a terminal disease; I'm way too practical for that. But if there's a good chance of recovery, and I felt I was compatible with the person - I would probably give it a chance.
2007-01-16 11:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋