Iam a grade 8 ESL student.me and my friends we hate a girl in our class who is most of the time about her self or her family.first I didn't hate her but after few weeks when my frinds say that she is like that I become to hate her and mean to her and talk bad about her with anybody.But now I am siting beside her and she realy want to be my friend.I don't hate her thta much now, but because one time I did hate her now I don't know how to be nice to her , don't talk about her and don't hate her and my friends don't ger mad of me because of I am nice to her and I am not talking to her anymore?how can I do that?help me pleaseeeeeeeee.
2007-01-16 10:52:39 · 9 answers · asked by L0L* * Esti * * L0L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you treat nice people mean and are nice to the mean people (like you are being now) then you will end up with mean nasty shallow friends and will never know what a real friend is like. Maybe its time for you to grow up and quit doing whatever someone else tells you to do and be your own person.
2007-01-16 10:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hate is a harsh word. there is no reason to hate n e one. maybe it is time to look deep inside yourself and learn to love people for their differences. u might not have liked her but that was based on other peoples opinions. if your friends r so shallow they cant accept that u need to reevaluate the people u hang out with. Maybe u should look inside yourself and decide which is better-be a good person or be a so called cool person.U just never know when u might be passing up an opportunity to have a life long friend
2007-01-16 19:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by aspen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exodus 23:1
Thou shalt not raise a false report: put not thine hand with the wicked to be an unrighteous witness.
Leviticus 19:16
Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people: neither shalt thou stand against the blood of thy neighbor: I am the Lord.
Psalm 15:1-3
Lord, who shall abide in thy tabernacle? Who shall dwell in thy holy hill?
He that walketh uprightly, and worketh righteousness, and speaketh the truth in his heart.
He that backbiteth not with his tongue, nor doeth evil to his neighbor, nor taketh up a reproach against his neighbor.
Psalm 34:13
Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile (Treacherous cunning; skillful deceit)
Proverbs 11:13
A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.
Proverbs 16:28
A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends.
Proverbs 17:4
A wicked doer giveth heed to gossip; and a liar giveth ear to a naughty tongue
Proverbs 20:19
He that goeth about as a talebearer revealeth secrets: therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips.
Proverbs 25:10
Others may accuse you of gossip, and you will never regain your good reputation.
Proverbs 26:20
Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth.
Proverbs 26:22
The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.
2007-01-16 19:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Tough one.
If "your friends" are getting amd bcuz u r bein nice 2 a girl, they r not friends. They r dipsticks.
For the girl problem. If your friends start talkin bad say " I don't feel good talking about her like this. I know she's nice underneath." Sounds corny, I no. Just plz take my advice. And b nice 2 the girl. It might pay off! Ya never know, right?
Sincerely,
Blah Blah
2007-01-16 18:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by Hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this question is easy.....do the right thing. It was wrong for you to listen to gossip about this girl in the first place. Forget what other people thank and find out for yourself what she's like. Get to know her before passing judgement on her. Your friends are wrong for gossipping about her. All that's necessary for evil to prevail is for good people to do nothing. You must choose between your friends and doing what is right....do what is right. Put yourself in this girls place, would you want people to treat you that way? And, perhaps if your friends would abandon you for standing up for your principles then perhaps they really aren't friends at all.
2007-01-16 19:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by tas211 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are brave enough, next time someone speaks bad of her, tell them that you think that she's had enough bad mouthing.
If not, just ignore their comments. They may be doing it for your benefit and will quit if you don't make an issue out of it. Ignore it.
2007-01-16 18:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from this experience and stop judging people before you know them. Be kind.
2007-01-16 18:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg first of all you can go back to your country OR learn how to spell and make sense of the english language before you post a question ever AGAIN.
2007-01-16 18:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by Susana M. 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just get to know her and if ur friends get mad they are not really you friends...Just act like you never did the things you did to her and act like she was your friend all along!
2007-01-16 18:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Casey B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋