friendly or excited about the upcoming wedding. Her son is so deeply in love with me! I don't get it? Why so mad...in the past we got into an argument and from both words got exchanged and feelings got hurt... she said she forgave me, but why like this now? It she just so jealous and it's hard to let go of son?
Are there any mother-in laws out there? Aren't you HAPPY for your son?
2007-01-16 10:49:30 · 25 answers · asked by A woman's world! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hard to let go of the son.
Just treat her with respect and avoid her as much as you can.
It is a no win situation, but take the high ground. If she gets rude, let your husband deal with it. You don't deserve nor need the aggrevation. In time, she'll come around...so don't burn bridges.
2007-01-16 10:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by ME 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mother-in-law and I feel bad for you. Your wedding should be a happy occasion but there are some mothers that have to act bad. She's probably sad to be losing her baby :-) or she feels you're not the right woman for her son. Don't worry about what she's thinking, you're marrying her son not her. Just keep loving your man and keep smiling when she's being mean it will make her realize she's acting foolish. You might not think so now but one day you'll be friends. I married the baby of the family and it was hard in the beginning but I kept telling myself I married the man not the mom and now we're the best of friends. I'm also friends with my daughter-in-law. Good luck and have a great wedding.
2007-01-16 10:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Alaska Angela 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it's difficult dealing with a soon to be mother in law from hell but here it goes. Have your fiance with you, tell her that you two are maddly in love and that you two ARE getting married whether she likes it or not. Say this in a nice tone of voice and aske her flat out why she doesn't like you. It may all be a misunderstanding or it could be the fact that she feels you are taking her son away from her. Let her know that he will still be a part of her life but he is in love with you. He has to go off on his own some time. Reassure her that you don't plan o hurting her son in any way, that you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him.
My thing is with my father in law... This is both our second marrieages and we both have 2 kids of our own. My father in law doesn't actnowledge my kids and treats my step kids with ever inch of enthusiam he can. My kids see this. I feel so bad for them. My family treats all the kids fairly. I don't understand him but I tell my kids it doesn't matter what he thinks.
2007-01-16 11:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most obvious answer is that she is having a really difficult time cutting the cord! This type of situation has happened to me & a lot of my girlfriends. As the prospective date of your wedding gets nearer, her feelings of animosity toward you may just escalate. Most likely she is happy for you two deep down, but she is probably also experiencing a bit of anger that she can't keep her baby longer, and that some day really soon he won't be her's anymore, he'll be yours. Try to be as understanding as possible, and if that doesn't work, keep your distance. Bitter feelings toward her may cause some upsets between you and your hubby-to-be, and goodness knows you don't need any more stress before the big day. Good luck!!
2007-01-16 11:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lynz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't let go most of the time. Although you do have some that are just plain cold-hearted most of the time. Is she included on the wedding planning, if not give her a job make her feel that she's gaining a daughter not losing a son.
2007-01-16 10:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by mom_of_1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the amount of nasty mother in laws is astounding! I can only put it down to boys have a special bond with there mother and are very jealous of other people in there life. My mother in law has been a huge problem for years, and no matter what i said she kept going with her nastiness. My husband ended up getting into a fight with her and didnt speak to her for a while, and since then she has been so nice to me, coz she knows that her son loves me and she is just driving him away with her pettiness. So the only advice i can give is to get your husbands backing
2007-01-16 20:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sons are pretty special and it is hard to think of some woman hurting them.Being a mother in law is not easy. I stay out of my son's business but I hate his girlfriend.But he loves her and I can't change that and don't try.You must have done something to **** your in laws off. Maybe the boyfriend said something you are not aware of. Sit down and try to work it out because if you can't and try to cause **** between the boyfriend and mother and ask him to chose ---you'll lose.Sorry but that's the way it is.
2007-01-16 16:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by Miz Val 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a stressful time for all of you involve. I would always be on my guard, but be friendly. It's really so hard to deal with the in laws, I had the same problem. Take care and hang in there. I'm also a Christian, prayer is good too.
2007-01-16 10:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask if the two of you can wipe the slate clean and start over. Sounds like she just don't want to lose a son, and you know Mother's...no one is good enough for their son. Also, keep in mind there will be alot of holiday's and gatherings together and you don't want that air between you...maybe if HE sits down and talks to her it might help.
2007-01-16 11:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by Gordongirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thro the same things...up and down up and down with her all the time. I told my bf at the time cuz it was getting to the point that it was so horrible, that unless you stand up for me and help me out when it comes to ur mother, i'm not going to marry you. That's how bad it was! Non the less I am not married and I havent seen nor talked to him in a year! he loved his mama more then me and that's how it is!
So in this case some just want to control everything in everyone lives....and so he let her! But not mines no no no!
2007-01-16 10:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋