Well I slept with this guy... now i had an argument with him and his best friend. Basically they thought i told this other girl that they stole her stuff, but I didnt. They wont believe me and now they are angry and want to tell the whole class what we did. I couldnt bear it if it got out as a lot of my class are firm christians and i know they would think badly of me. Should I apologise to them and try to patch things up, or ignore it and hope nobody believes them? We used to be close and they know a hell of a lot of my secrets... now i want nothing to do with them whatsoever... but im scared of what they'll do. Please help.
2007-01-16 10:33:08 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Im not a child or anything... im 17.
2007-01-16 10:38:11 · update #1
Lol, probably nobody will believe them as im top of the class... goody two shoes innocent type girl. Ive never done anything like this before, and wont again
2007-01-16 10:42:10 · update #2
I am scared cause theyve been so spiteful... they wont leave me alone in college, and i think they will make my life hell from now on
2007-01-16 10:50:39 · update #3
You sound young...and I do not mean that in a demeaning sort of way. These guys sound not only young, but extremely immature. A moment ago, I wrote a response full of "wisdom" about how you shouldn't care what people think, that sex is not something you should feel ashamed about, that the people least likely to judge you should be Chrisitians--but I think you might need some more practical tangible advice:
Find someone of authority that you trust, whether a guidance counselor at school, or a teacher, or a friend's parent whom you think will be understanding. Tell that person what kind of predicament you are in, and how you are feeling blackmailed and threatened. Be honest and unashamed. You might be surprised who will "go to bat for you" put the end to this bullying.
I myself got pissed when I read what these thugs are doing. I would make these guys understand that if they treated you like this, based on a rumor, there would be serious consequences. I doubt they would run their mouths after that. You need someone to scare the @#$! out of their punk asses.
2007-01-16 10:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Karibuboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your conscience is clear and u know that u didnt go telling people or that girl about them stealing.....dont worry about what these losers go telling. Firstly, if they did steal stuff......maybe they should be exposed to the class so other students can be aware of these lunatics.
Secondly, u cant go and un-do what u did, i mean sleeping with that jerk....forget and learn from it and make sure the next guy is not a scum bag.
Just totally deny what these guys say and act cool like they dont exist. When people see that your un-affected by what they accuse you of, they will presume that your innocent and the two scum bags are full of it!!
Do not patch things up with these guys as they are trying to minipulate you, just lose them and make better friends......the whole issue will die down eventually.
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-16 18:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by GenuineGemini 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't do what they are accusing you of, you have no reason to apologize. Don't. They are going to say what they want to say about you. You cannot control what they tell other people. If they are doing these things, and if they won't believe you, they are not your friends. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is to scrape up your self respect and dignity, and to ignore them completely. Don't get into a war with them, it will only play into the attention they are seeking. A guy who would sleep with you and then treat you this way is not someone you want in your life. Perhaps you can talk to the guy you slept with, in private, so he is not under the influence of his friend. Tell him that you really trusted him, that you cared about him, and he is really hurting you by not believing you. Ask him to consider treating you with respect, and a shred of human decency. Then, act with self respect and dignity, don't get into a war, and don't stoop to their level. You are better than all of this nonsense. Move on with your life, and consider how you will evaluate who is truly trustworthy in the future. Growing up is tough; good luck to you.
2007-01-16 18:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Sharpie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say these people are not friends at all, be true to yourself if you didn't do what they are saying then don't be walked over.
There is nothing you can do if these so called friends are going to tell people your secrets I'm afraid that's life but it will certainly teach you a valuable lesson about who you confide in & what friends you choose in the future.
I say ignore it, it will blow over soon enough when they find their next victim to pick on, be strong.
Why are you scared? Would they hurt you physically?
Remember the old saying 'sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me'
2007-01-16 18:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
fcuk ur 17 god. the way you were talking i thought you were only 12 or something. what you have done is not wrong or illegal. dont give a toss what they say to anyone about you or that your class are christians. who cares what they believe. you did what you wanted to do and what made you feel good. its nothing to be ashamed of so dont panic. ignore the two guys. they aint worth bothering about if they can be as pathetic as your saying. they need to grow up. Good Luck
2007-01-17 05:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're such good Christians then they'd probably look on the manipulative planned unkind act of the two guys as far worse than your slight misjudgement,if all else fails lie through your teeth the one pro about a good reputation just don't make a habit of it.
2007-01-16 18:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by alex w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you should not of had sex, some boys are just nice to get into your knickers, and you could get aids if you are seeking love and security from a male you are going to be disappointed. he does not respect you. He cannot put you down he has done wrong soon.
my friend years ago at school slept with a boy and he wrote on the school wall she was a ****. she ignored it. he was a **** as well.
ignore him and his mate and don,t talk to them, show you are more mature and if anyone says anthing about it ignore them or laugh at it, if you show you are not bovered people will ignore it, if you make a big thing out of it others will as well. laugh at them they are sad.
2007-01-17 12:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by denise g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are the type that would steal this girls stuff, they aren't that good of friends by putting you in the middle of that. if they tell the class you slept with the guy just reply "he wishes" They may already have such a bad reputation that no one wil beleve them anyhow.
2007-01-16 18:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is a 17 Year old, even giving herself to some guy. They're Kids, Ma'm! Just like you. You get what you hang out with. If you want to be treated with respect. Wait until you get old enough to Date older guys. Usually by the time you reach,............. 30!
2007-01-16 18:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by Goggles 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you take a walk along a beach...you find a pebble and you sit on the beach and stare at it.
After a while you should come to realise that the pebble leads a more interesting life than you do.
2007-01-16 18:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋