I feel like my husband dosent love me anymore. I am such a good mom & wife. I do everything for this man and he dosent see it. I dont know what else to do or say. I want to be with him because of our little girl, but I just dont know anymore. Everything wrong in his life is my fault down to if he cant find his pants. He has been so mean and evil lately. He even hit me once a week ago. Our little girl was with my mom thank god!
2007-01-16 10:28:43 · 24 answers · asked by Heather J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Heather, I've been following some of your questions, and if they're legit , you do NOT need to have an affair, but you DO need to get a divorce. Somebody's gonna get hurt if you don't!
2007-01-16 10:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my dear.You have a couple issues here first you never never never stay in a relationship because you have a child or children that is the worst mistake that parents make.The fact that your husband hit you really bothers me.Nobody has the right ever to hit anyone that is just plain wrong.Your husband is not only abusing you emotionally but now physically as well.Most of the time once a man hit's his wife it never stops.They will say that they are sorry everytime but it never end's until the wife smartins up and leaves.This is noway to raise your daughter and you certainly deserve better.Please don't allow him to abuse you either emotionally or physically.You seriously need to think about divorcing.This change in him has not come out of nowhere more than likely he is probably cheating on you as well.Sometimes when they cheat they begin abusing their wife to make it look like she was at fault and you are not.He has the problem not you.Thing's will only get worse if you allow him to continue to treat you this way.Now is the time to stand up and protect not only yourself but your precious daughter.Good luck.
2007-01-16 10:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should leave love out of it and just enjoy having fun without having to say I love you all the time or even think about it.
Love is very powerful word mis-used many times.
It took me 25 years to fall in love with my wife and that is a fact.
In my experience of love now, it is most horrible because I am not sure that I can live without her should she pass on.
Our life has become so precious now that all the years I took for granted when I could of been much happier has a price to pay for it in the end.
It had to be this way or no way.
Now when I hear young lads say " I love her so much, she is everything to me I want to marry her". I can't do, but imagine what their going through at that very moment in their life. I guess this is why most end up in divorce because they haven't understood what love really is, but when you do it is beautiful and also a horror.
Let me explain the horror part of it.
Some people find love early in life and others late in life. If you find love early in your relationship and lose her or him by death, you can overcome it because the time was short and you can start a new.
When death comes to your love after 50 years of marriage, its a horror that you don't want to think about. It takes more than one can imagine to survive without your other half when love was there and now its gone. It literally will destroy you and that my friend is true love.
No matter how may times you attend Church, you cannot live with yourself knowing that besides God and Jesus, what was once is now gone. So you eagerly await to join her or him in heaven and this is when they give up when they get sick or ill because they want to join their loved ones in Heaven. Think about what I say. How may people do you know after a long marriage that when the wife past on the husband was not far behind her?
2007-01-16 10:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you think that living with him might affect your daughter in any possible way get out of the situation. Don't blame everything on your self Even if he does. People do stupid things because they can't handle a stupid situation. If he is abusing you, immediately leave the situation. Too many ladies have put up with this situation and they don't usually come out good. Just do you and your daughter some help and please gt out of the situation. This same situation has happened to many of my Friends and they didn't take my advice, so you do the right thing. Don't let it scar you for life like it did them. Be a better person.
2007-01-16 10:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but it sounds like you're right. But unfortunately, that's how life works sometimes. Perhaps he's having second thoughts about being married and feels trapped for life (til death do we part). Women can and usually do fall in love and stay there for life. Men love differently from women. He could be under a lot of pressure from work or anything else. It's not right for him to hit you under any circumstances. You need to get a divorce because if he hit you once, it could probably happen again...or worse. You don't need that kind of environment for your daughter. Time to call it quits.
2007-01-16 10:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say its time for the Talk. ask him to be honest about what he is feeling, what he wants, and what is lacking on his part. and you listen without any reprecussion and talk it out with him. if the problem is something you feel you can fix then by all means workout it. if it is out of your hands then i say its time to save yourself, because you kids need a happy healthy mommy. and you can find happiness once again. i found out that being around someone that jsut doesnt inspire anything not one bit of happiness or motivation or just anything of anything that is positive can turn u to be just the same way, and it sounds like you are already there, so mama i just tell you what ever the out come is, know that God wont ever put you through anything he knows you can not handle so keeop your head up and move forward, you have 5 kids that should be enough to carry you on through life. their daddy will always be there and if he doesnt want to be because hes stuck in some sort of la la land then its his lost not theirs God bless i wish you the best, ezy
2016-05-23 22:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you're with him because of your little girl? If he hit you then you should leave him because of your little girl. You don't want her to see that and grow up and think it's okay. You might not mind the abuse, but it would kill you if your daughter married an asshole. If you don't feel like you can be strong enough for yourself... for Gods sake, do it for your kid. Be a parent take control and leave.
2007-01-16 10:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm if it wasnt for ur child i'd say leave him... but then again since he is getting violent it might be best to take ur child away from the abuse... stay with ur mother or friend for awhile; so that he can realize what he has, and possably save the marriage. Best of Luck to you..stay strong and dont back down. Ur life and ur child's life/ happiness is more important, even if it means she has to live without a father
2007-01-16 10:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's this song i heard that says "do you feel like a man when you push her around? do you feel better now as she falls to the ground..." dont be like this girl. she thinks she loves a guy that pushes her, and beats her up. you should get a divorce. its a hard thing to do, but if i were you, i would seriously think about it.
good luck! and know there are people out there that luv ya! :D
2007-01-16 10:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Marie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if thats the case,think about moving on whats the use of living with a husband that is very inconsiderate,think about your kid,make her your priority in life,dont torture yourself in living in a house where you became an unapreciated slave and a punching bag,my mother suffered the same fate like yours,she is now in a new page of her life and is enjoying her freedom,its a struggle at first but she was able to overcome it,and i hope and pray that you will overcome your trials too,and best of luck to you
2007-01-16 10:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋