Would I still want to have sex with him, spend time with him and spend time with him and his family aswell if I was falling out of love with him?
I have an amazing habit of convincing myself of things that are not true and I think this might be one of them.....
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2007-01-16 10:15:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can fall out of love without hating him. You may still regard him as a dear friend and enjoy spending time with him and his family - and not be in love with him anymore.
Only you can tell...
2007-01-16 10:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you never really loved him, but only felt lust for him. If you were ever in love with him, how could you fall out of love? I don't think it's possible unless he did something very bad to make it happen. If you just drifted apart, you probably still love him as a person, a friend a fellow human being, but you might not want to have sex with him or spend toomuch time with him. Are you sure that what you are feeling is not dependance on him? Maybe you don't love him but you are too afraid to be without him?
2007-01-16 10:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the sex is great you do not need love, for spending time with the family to put up with that you will need love, but honestly if you think you are falling out of love take some time (space) and if you miss him then it can be worked out.
2007-01-16 10:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should leave love out of it and just enjoy having fun without having to say I love you all the time or even think about it.
Love is very powerful word mis-used many times.
It took me 25 years to fall in love with my wife and that is a fact.
In my experience of love now, it is most horrible because I am not sure that I can live without her should she pass on.
Our life has become so precious now that all the years I took for granted when I could of been much happier has a price to pay for it in the end.
It had to be this way or no way.
Now when I hear young lads say " I love her so much, she is everything to me I want to marry her". I can't do, but imagine what their going through at that very moment in their life. I guess this is why most end up in divorce because they haven't understood what love really is, but when you do it is beautiful and also a horror.
Let me explain the horror part of it.
Some people find love early in life and others late in life. If you find love early in your relationship and lose her or him by death, you can overcome it because the time was short and you can start a new.
When death comes to your love after 50 years of marriage, its a horror that you don't want to think about. It takes more than one can imagine to survive without your other half when love was there and now its gone. It literally will destroy you and that my friend is true love. No matter how may times you attend Church, you cannot live with yourself knowing that besdies God and Jesus, what was once is now gone. So you eagerly await to jouin her or him in heaven and this is when they give up when they get sick or ill becasue they want to join their loved ones in Heaven. Think about what I say. How may people do you know after a long marriage that when the wife past on the husband was not far behind her?
2007-01-16 10:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem like you still love him and trust me im one of those people as well i have anxiety and sometimes tend to overthink situations.
I say you're thinking too much about the situation! You still want to do all of those intimate things and even spend time with his family? People falling out of love would not want that still.
Good luck! Go with your instinct and your feelings in the moment, not with how you feel when you look back on the situation!
2007-01-16 10:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sex isn't the problem. Sometimes you can fall out of love and still have attraction there.
It's when you really can't stand spending time with him and his family when there might be a problem. The romance could be gone... but... if you really have a hard time being with him... that's generally a warning sign.
2007-01-16 10:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by ncatcrzy135 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the sex is good & his family is SUPER cool & you've known them for a long time it's normal to get attached (they've become your family). However, you cannot fall out of love... if you're having thought os Not loving someone it's b/c you no longer do.
2007-01-16 10:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mishee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can still want to have sex and spend time with someone you're not in love with.
2007-01-16 10:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Phil H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well until you know... I would at least hold back on the sex....no sense of taking chances.... nothing worse then accidentally ending up pregnant...after realizing you don't love him anymore...
2007-01-16 10:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is different to many people. But, it seems you must still have feelings if you are doing all of that with him.
2007-01-16 10:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋