be jealous of each other? My husband and I are always competing with each other. We have been together for 2.5 years and married 2 months. Is this kind of behavior normal? I dont understand why we are like this.
2007-01-16 10:12:22 · 19 answers · asked by What_if 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you both see each other as two different individuals that are materially motivated then maybe it's normal. ...but...if you really are united to be one in mind and spirit bonded in the sacrament of marriage and enwrapped with pure love and respect for each other ...then both of you will realize...that you are made one...and what's his...is already yours...and vice-versa...and that you both work for the common good of each other...and that you both work not to compete and show who's the best...but a unified couple preparing the future of would-be children and the whole family as well. Better have a heart to heart talk with each other before things got worst. Be open and honest in laying down your cards and define the real purpose of your marriage. Good luck and God bless you both!
2007-01-16 10:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by dimma59 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact is, men do not read minds. One of the biggest issues in many relationships is lack of communication, in and out of the bedroom. Was that a "good" moan, or a "move your hand to the left" moan?
What would you do if you asked your partner, "Does that feel good" and she said "No"? Even if you recovered from the blow to your ego and were still conscious, even if she was still in the mood, what would you do then?
What if her answer was, "I don't know", the possibilities are endless in how to respond to that. The odds for success are not very good.
If she said : "Yes", would you know beyond the shadow of a doubt what it was you were doing that pleased her? Would you feel confident that you could do it again the next time? Or are you simply left wondering, was it the pressure, the speed, or the length of my stroke? You still don't have much information to go on. The best you can do is start guessing again.
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2007-01-16 10:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by iloeta1164 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can be jealous and competitive. It's not a good thing. A man needs to feel important, and even the nicest guy needs his ego pumped up by his woman.
If you want to stop this behavior, then you must take the high road. Don't compete with him, build him up. Tell him he's the best husband ever, the best at whatever sport he like, etc.
I promise he will love it, and when he feels more secure with himself, he will start to repay the compliments. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-16 10:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! Why don't try paying each other some compliments rather than playing all the games. you are on the same team now. You should be equally proud of each other. Sounds like both of you need an ego adjustment. Your marriage is worth letting go of the jealousy, if you don't you are both writing a prescription for FAILURE.
2007-01-16 10:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by justme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not an easy thing, no matter how long you have been together. What do you have to be jealous of? You are together.
As time goes on, things will get easier - just don't expect it to happen all at once.
2007-01-16 10:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by ~Z~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is. What may have been fun competition when dating has now turned into competition within the marriage, which can become dangerous, especially if one of you gets a promotion or loses their job. If it works, keep the competition friendly, but never degrade the other for not keeping up.
2007-01-16 10:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by halie_blue 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'v heard of this. I think it's common especially if youre in the same line of work. I don't know what to suggest though, but I think it's normal, and you should both just learn to laugh at it. Also help it to make you more competitive.
2007-01-16 10:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been married two months???? It's a "power struggle" then. Both of you want to outdo the other, to gain control....hence, the "competition". You'll have to settle this , or your marriage will suffer.
2007-01-16 10:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it can happen, but just as long as you both can control the jealously its okay, just remember that you are both married to each other, this should make you guys more stronger together, in a good way thou.
2007-01-16 10:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like a healthy relationship..to be jealous of your spouse. and no its not normal. why are you jealous of your hubby? maybe you should try to be proud of each other instead of jealous.
2007-01-16 10:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋