I would like to hear both sides of this argument. Would I be insecure of not wanting that name?
2007-01-16 10:04:41 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She first told me she met a guy once, and that she loved the name. then after the baby was born, I found out it was herr ex's name.
2007-01-16 10:19:56 · update #1
Uhhhhhhhh......NO!
2007-01-16 10:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she really liked the name first, and the guy second. If he's an ex then obviously it didn't work out between them, but she still likes the name. I can understand being insecure about it but the child is already born so the matter is done.
Love your child, talk about it with your wife so she can dissuade your insecurities.
2007-01-16 10:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being insecure, I think she is being rude. There would be no way I would name my baby after an ex boyfriend. After all he is an ex for a reason. I didn't even name my boys after their father. I think she still has feelings for this guy and she can't let go of the past. Talk to her about it and if at all possible give the kid a nick name.
2007-01-16 10:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if her ex has died and she is doing it out of some sort of respect for the dead. Do you like the name? Did you have a problem with it prior to finding out that she had an ex with the same name? I actually dated a guy by the name of James, we only dated for a couple of weeks, but I still liked the name. If I were to have had a son and I wanted to name him James, I wouldn't want to think that anyone thought I named him after my short term ex.
2007-01-16 10:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Saz_E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have a Son together. Before we found out he was in fact a boy, my husband told me he had ALWAYS wanted a Son named David. I about died..... I said I cannot stand that name, I had a relationship with a man named David and he turned out to be psycho. We had even talked about marriage for a minute... then things got weird. It was really scary for a while and I actually was afraid for myself and my kids. I felt as though my feelings weren't even in play here because my husband wanted what he wanted.
Anyway, my husband was relentless so stupid me gave in. Now I have a Son named David and I hate the name. I wish I had been more adamant about not allowing the name.... I even offered to compromise and use it as his middle name. I wanted to name him after my Father... Luke.
This is sort of a flipped version of your problem. I didn't want a name associated with my ex but my husband did. Not because of my ex though. He liked the name David because when he coached youth football years ago, he had a few really good kids (players) and their names were David. David is a great name otherwise, there is just too much association for me.
PS... My Grandfather named my Mother after his mistress.... 2 years later my Grandmother found out.... it was a tough situation. My Grandfather was a loser and a drunk.
2007-01-16 10:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Does she just like the way the name sounds or is she really naming the child after her ex? I think you need to come up with a name you both can agree on.
2007-01-16 10:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
has she always like the name.. maybe as a middle.. but if your sure that she naming him after the ex i would wonder who the father really is or is she sending a hidding meaning to the ex.. so after thinking about all of these things than no way.. and yes i use to think if i had a boy i would name him after my ex/// but then again i loved the ex and not my husband at the time..still do love the ex more then the NOW EX HUSBAND
2007-01-16 10:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could just like the name. I doubt it means anything else. If she did name the child (Mr. Ex) however, you would probably associate the name with the love of your child, not the sleezy ex and it might not bother you anymore. But you should still have some say-so in the choice... Speak up
2007-01-16 10:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would not want my child named after the ex of my partner, as i would believe that she still loved him. no u would not be insecure not wanting the name, and should question why she would want to pick this name. wouldn't be insecure, but wouldn't want that name either.because it represents a past love, so u would have to wonder if she was still in love with him.
2007-01-16 10:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to name my child after an ex. Becuz the way the name sounds...not becuz i missed him or anything.. But my husband knows my ex and I know he wouldnt like it.. So no..I wouldnt name it after an ex if my husband knows its an ex.
2007-01-16 10:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by black widow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way should she name the child after her ex! How rude!
2007-01-16 10:20:57 · answer #11 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋