1. Being "unfaithful" but keeping loving to your partner
or
2. Keeping living faithfully with someone you are not in love anymore with
(in both cases your partner don´t know anything about it)
2007-01-16 10:04:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My experiment are working: i´m obtaining different results asking the same question but in different ways... interesting...
2007-01-16 10:21:43 · update #1
Why some people think this is a personal case? I´m just researching that´s all. It could be two cases from different couples ok?
2007-01-16 13:46:07 · update #2
I would say that the first one is the worst. This is only because there are so many situations where people cheat on there partner and bring home HIV/AIDS to their partner that has been completely faithfull. I would rather someone stay with me faithfully and not really love me than bring me home a disease that would eventually kill me.
My life is more important than the fact that my heart will be broken just because they do not love me anymore. You can heal your heart, you can not heal some stds.
2007-01-16 10:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by someone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the same situation
By the way your question #2 is WRONG.
You can't be faithful to someone you aren't in love with anymore, because then you'd be emotionally unfaithful. And remember the emotional aspect outweighs the physical aspect and anyone who doesn't see that needs to grow up a bit more before getting themselves into a relationship.
Either way both situations is a form of deceit and cheating.
2007-01-16 18:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by hw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question because both situations are lies. But I would have to say #2 because being unfaithful without your partner knowing could harm them physically. The person you're being unfaithful with could have a STD or an untreatable disease and this could cause harm to your partner.
2007-01-16 18:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Alaska Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 is the worst. #2 is being done all the time all over the place. People who aren't in love should just leave. #1 is terrible because you don't really love your partner if you cheat on them. That's like saying it's okay to steal from someone you love. Most people who find out that they were cheated on say that they would prefer that their partner just punched them in the stomach. It's like being stabbed in the back and it really hurts. If a person is willing to risk hurting their partner in that way, then they don't love them anyways.
2007-01-16 18:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't be faithful or love a person u don't. being unfaithful and staying with your partner is deceitful also. bot are equally bad, both represent the true way things are with some marriages. it all spells the eventual end of the marriage. as u have built it's foundation on lies.
2007-01-16 18:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think both lies are as bad as each other. If you need to be unfaithful it means you are using your partner (cake and eat it situaion) and if you live faithfully and are not in love....it's unfair and a lie to both of you.
2007-01-17 12:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by crazeeladee no more 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think u r doin your partner a service. by staying and living a lie? reckon they wud rather go thru the grief of losing u 2 another but finally getting over u and eventually being with some1 who loves them ,totally. imagine if it were u. and on your deathbed your partner told u the truth. how utterly devastated wud u be? that u wasted years of your life in a fake relationship!! i cant think of much WORSE. GRAB THE NETTLE!
2007-01-16 18:24:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are the husband of the lady who asked some questions similar a little while ago. I would say BOTH
2007-01-16 18:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both
2007-01-16 18:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did number 2 for 8 yrs and then i went out on him and committed number 1 and we got back together for 10 yrs and did number 2 the whole time.. man i feel like i just went to the bathroom with all this number 1 and 2 stuff
2007-01-16 18:36:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋