Basically, there's this girl named Elena that I've always hated ever since I first met her because she was always really mean and rude to me. In general, she's a very obnoxious person, and I would estimate 80% of our grade would agree. She's rude, she's mean, and she has no tact - this may not be her fault as she might not know that she is not a very pleasant person - but still. Just recently she's become 'friends' with me because we both have mutual friends. However, there have been COUNTLESS times where she has said harsh and cruel things about each of her friends to the other (things about their body, etc.). When she's confronted, she apologizes, yet continues! Now, she hangs around me all the time because she thinks we are friends. It really frustrates me because both my friends and I really, really, truly dislike her. I mean, is it wrong for me to hate her still? She was never ever nice to me in the past and still says rude things about me to my other friends!
2007-01-16 09:50:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't really change other people. Just stay away from her, don't return her calls, don't hang out with her, and don't let her force herself onto you.
And stop gossiping.
2007-01-16 09:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't feel comfortable with her being your "friend" because of the things you just wrote about. Tell her that it would be better if she just didn't hang around you that much... it might seem mean at the moment, but it might be the best thing to do. Specially if she continues to spread bad things about you. Why would you want her to be around?
2007-01-16 09:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshineluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen SHE HAS A BBBBIG PROBLEM
i know those types of people...i know how it makes you feel.
BUT its HER with the issues...so dont let wat she sais get to you. she really needs to learn how to behave but coldness from the nice people will make HEER even meaner, cause that's how she tries to make herself noticed, she just doesn't know how to do it any other way. and tell her how her meaness is hurting everyone but say you still want to be "friends" and maybe things will get better.
2007-01-16 10:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore her eventually she will move on.
2007-01-16 09:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Doug B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋