Throughout my 6 year marriage I commited about 6 adulteries. My wife has found out about my affaires after I told her that it is over and left the country to accept a job. She went through a an emotional trauma. She began smoking and was almost ready to commit a suicide. She kept calling me every day to threaten me, to curse me, to offend me. I tried to ease her pain - but nothing could help. I wanted out - because she was becoming mentally unstable. I could not communicate with her.
Now, I realized that I am deeply in love with her. I started to make big changes - I am now a faithful, loving, romantic and caring husband, but her feelings for me have vanished. She does not even communicate with me.
I took her on a cruise where our relationship improved, but as soon as she got back home to her mother(who wants to kill me) - she does not want me to call her. We live separately, I suspect she is dating other people.
I am now suicidal - what can I do to get my wife back?
2007-01-16 09:39:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The problem here is you are just now thinking about your
marriage and not when you cheated on her six times
before. Taking someone on a cruise after haveing hurt
them for six years is not enough to heal the marriage.
You say you are now faithful but seperated from her and
all you really have is time as it will take time for her to
believe that you have changed. Now you will have to
PROVE to her during your trial period of seperation that
you really have changed and are faithful to her as her
healing process will take awhile. To get your wife back
you will have to work extra hard in regaining her love as
that is what it will take for her to come back to you: and
you do not need to commit suicide as if you say you love
and want your wife back then you should concentrate on
that an nothing else and if you really really try hard and
you're sincere about getting her back then she will see
that and will if you have given her the reason to.
Good luck.
2007-01-16 13:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do the same thing if I was your wife, she is not wrong.
you should change and it takes 10 years or more, it is not easy.
I would suggest that you take a break for a year and see a psychologist, or a counsellor of marriage. try to seen thing from her perspective is really important, you don't want her to do the same affaires you were doing. solution now is the total seperation, get a life, work and get closer to your god, save up some money, go for a holiday with children if you have any. if not, with your sister, brother or any cousin, if not. than keep seeing the psychologist and volunteer, help children and older people and poor people.
2007-01-16 09:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Summer O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn`t even a political issue, it`s a moral one. Do you really think Mrs. Edwards just let the infidelity slide? I doubt it. The trust is most likely damaged and with Johnny boy being a lawyer what chance would Mrs Edward have to get much from a divorce settlement. The Clinton`s, well you can be sure their marriage is intact for public viewing only. Billy has his own apartment, paid for by the taxpayers. There are plenty of adulterers on both sides so you need to climb out of the box your in a see the real world.
2016-03-14 06:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six incidents of adultery is quite a lot. You may have done damage that can't be undone. I know I wouldn't take you back.
Since you're the one who blew it, you're the one who is going to have to right this wrong. Sounds like you're trying but sometimes there are things we can't fix. Learn from this and take your experiences and use them in future relationships.
If you are truly suicidal, get some help NOW. Call a suicide hot line and/or get some counseling.
2007-01-16 09:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me be quite blunt. You have only brought this upon yourself. First you would be only to fortunate for your wife to take you back when you have only given her misery and an emotional ordeal. She has obviously moved on. You need to respect her decision instead of hurting her again by dragging her back through an emotional mess known as, Y - O - U. If you truly love her you will let her decide what is best for her since not that long ago you chose what was best for you, which was other women.
2007-01-16 09:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing personal but you sound like an Azzhole. When you got married I guess you didn't love her. Six affairs in 6 years is six to many, now that she has gotten over you, all of a sudden you want her back.
My suggestion is that you hook up with one of the women you had the affair with because you don't deserve your wife.
2007-01-16 09:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, I wouldn't have went on the cruise with you. I would not allow you back in my life for only 1 affair, but 6. You don't love her, and chances are you never did. If you did you would have kept your member in your pants when it came to other women. If you've cheated on her once you'll do it again.
2007-01-16 10:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL0,
WELL YOU ARE BETTER OFF WITHOUT A WOMEN DUE TO YOU ARE VERY SELFISH....AND MOST MEN ARE.....AND NOW THA YOU HAVE CHANGED YOU THINK SHE SHOULD GO BACK TO YOU????ARE YOU CRAZY...YOU HAVE DESTROTED HER TRUST IN MEN AND NOW SHE HAS TO START ALL OVER AGAIN IN HE TRUST DEPARTMENT....IF I WAS HER I WOULD NEVER LOOK BACK......IF YOU COMMITED ADULTRY THEN YOU NEED TO SUFFER THE CONCEQUENCES AND JUST GRIN AND BARE IT...BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT SHE HAS DONE AND YOU PLAYED TOO LONG FOR HER TO TAKE YOU BACK....AND THE SAD THING IS YOU WAITED TILL NOW TO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU HAD...I REALLY HATE MEN THAT ARE LIKE YOU AND SELFISH THAT WANT EVERY WOMEN ON THE EARTH....SO YOU DESERVE IT.....IT WASN'T 1 TIME BUT 6 YOUR A PIG OF ALL MEN....
2007-01-16 10:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to let go. Even if you tried to make it work the relationship would not be healthy one. The marriage values are no longer there (trust,love,happiness,etc.) If she has said that she no longer has feelings for you it is because of all the pain that you have caused her. In other words what you did was unacceptable and you need to take responsibility for your own actions. Please just let her go, you have caused her enough pain!
2007-01-16 09:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by cireniod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do to get your wife back? Hummm.....Guess you should of thought of that before you were out duncing around, 6 times, with other women.
2007-01-16 10:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋