Advice please?

Question

*this is a repost, id like more advice please* Recently I posted a question explaining a situation that’s I was in…one that’s still going on. I’m trying SO hard to take your peoples advice and move on. But theres something…I don’t know what, but something preventing me from doing so. I pretend im fine at school and barely anyone can guess what’s wrong. but when I go home all I can think about is how I think I screwed up our friendship. I know its not ALL my fault, or at least I hope it isn’t. But I cry myself to sleep, close to every night, and if that makes me a crybaby, then so be it. Ive tried making new friends and I have a couple new ones and im hoping the more we hang out I could stop feeling so sad all the time. Im never going to forget this other friend of mine..i am who I am today because of her, and I cant let her go… I don’t know how. Any advice would be grand. Thanks.

Answer 1

You're obsessing... it's a fresh emotional scar... it will heal... read some books on meditation... take up running... if you push yourself physically... you'll be to tired to drain yourself emotionally... life is about learning... about ourselves...about each other... find the lesson in your experience and once you have it...can express it... you'll be over it...

Answer 2

I dont know what went on between you but i really think that you should try and talk to her again, tell her how you feel, even try to write her a letter, apologise to her even, just tell her you want her friendship back. I dont know if you already done that, but thats all that you will be able to do at the moment, give her time, she will come around, unless you slept with her boyfriend. But if its anythink else im pretty sure she will get over it. If she doesnt well you probably heard it all before and you are just going to have to try and move on, i lost my friend but i deserved it, but after 3-4 years we have only just started to talk to each other, but only just. Good luck

Answer 3

your not a cry baby, everyone would cry over the loss of a close friend.

i hate to be rude, mean or whatever...

you need to stop obssesing over this person. she obviously isnt worth your time if shes blowing you off. shes not worth a single tear, sleepless night, that extra weight from the box of chocolates you ate b/c you where so depressed about her. (haha).

just take siccors or something leathel and break that tie thats holding you back to her. you dont have to just forget her completely, just forget about her, keep the [good] memories, but skcratch out her face and put who ever is treating you better on her.

Answer 4

you obviously need some kind of closure on this. i'm not sure of the original problem, but if you can talk to this person, just tell them how you feel, be completely honest and see how things go.
if you have no contact with the person right now i say mail a very long letter, explaining, (apologizing if you have to) just be honest and as open as you can. if they reply then thats good. if not at least you will know and you can take steps to move on with your life. best of luck

Answer 5

One of the best things i can tell you is the Gestalt prayer:
I am I and you are you
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations
And you are not here to live up to mine
If by chance we meet it is beautiful
If not, it can't be helped.

you can never forget a past friend completly but you can make a list of what went wrong and you often will find that it makes it easier to let go of the past and go into the future.

Answer 6

have you tried talking to her? you may not become great friends again but maybe she wants to tell you how she's feeling or maybe you should apologize, otherwise, just take it a day at a time and eventually you'll start making more friends

Answer 7

Get a therapist.

Answer 8

time heals all wounds