Ok, How do I tell my best friend her step dad is hitting on me, without her freaking out . I tell you this because she doesnt get along with him and I dont want her mom hating me . Once he walked in on me while I was changing in my friends room, while she was in the washroom. I can see him basically undressing me with his eyes or winks at me when his wife isnt looking. He sat outside in the summer as we swam in the pool and wanted to videotape us all the time!..Her mom is like another mom to me and maybe im exaggerating A while ago I got in a fight with my BF and I came over to her house and I was crying and as she went to do something he tells me I need a real man not a boy and tries to hold my hand!!That freaked the **** out of me... He also had the nerve to tell me once that when I Get married I´ll get fat like his wife .My friend is asking me why I dont come to her house often but its because he makes me feel uncomfortable. I think his wife needs to know.I´m I correct?
2007-01-16 09:21:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell your friend about it. She deserves to know why you haven't been coming around.
I had the same thing happen to me when I was in high school. My best friend's dad tried to french kiss me and I was so grossed out. I told her and she too, was repulsed. A few weeks later he did it to another of our friends.
HE'S A PIG!
If this was your boyfriend or husband wouldn't you want to know? By not telling anyone, you're covering for him. Why? He acted like a disgusting pig so don't let him get away with it.
One more piece of advice: Learn to trust your instincts. If you feel uncomfortable around him, you probably have good reason to. Your instincts have been given to you to be used. Trust them!
2007-01-16 09:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He might think that he's really hip and happening. And, is really quite ill-mannered and tacky. Maybe just confront him sometime? Tell him that what ever it is he just said or did was not appropriate, and go into the next room where the mom and or friend is! That will freak him! you don't necessarily have to blab, but if you look like you're telling a secret to your friend or talking softly to the mom, he's going to panic and never do anything again. He doesn't sound dangerous as long as you avoid being alone with him.
2007-01-16 09:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by LuckyEddie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know the answer to this one. Yeah, it's a really awkward, in fact, horribly uncomfortable situation, but in your heart, you know you should tell your friend about this. You should not have to be subjected to this because you visit with your friend. Also, your friend should not have to feel like she's done something wrong or maybe she or her house is not good enough for you to come visit anymore. You should be honest. What she does with the information after that is her deal.
2007-01-16 09:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean when you say you're afraid to tell your friend. but you have to. This is a very dangerous situation and can go from her step-dad hitting on you to her step dad raping you. I know that sounds very bad but it can happen.
First have you friend go over to your house. ask her if she's noticed anything that happens when you go over to her house. If she says no then slowly let her know what's been happening. Make a promise that she won't say anything, and then get your mom and your friends mom together. Tell them what's been going on, even though it might be uncomfortable, and they'll know what to do.
hope this help =D
2007-01-16 09:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very important that you tell someone. If nothing else, this can be done by calling 911 from a phone other than your own if you do not want them to know who made the call. You can get the phone number for family services in your area from the phone operator or local police department. The important thing is to report it before your friend gets hurt.
2016-03-29 00:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if her mom is like a mom to you. Go to her and tell her in secret how you feel. what you believe is happening. If she will not hear of it then you must tell your Friend in sorry but i cannot take being around your step dad anymore. and you will lose a friend for awhile but after time passes by she will see the truth about you and will come back around.
2007-01-16 09:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he definately is a pig. you probably should talk with your friend in person, but on the same day you both should be in the same room with her mom and confront her. she can't hate you, not unless she is a flake? but only you know that. if you trust her mom to do the right thing, she will. she deserves better if thats the case. i cant believe he walked in on you, you need to tell her all the details... good luck and if you want to chat email me.
2007-01-16 09:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend. Unless you think you can face the man. Tell him you know what he is doing is against the law (assuming you're under 18) and that you will not hesitate to report him if he makes you uncomfortable one more time. . .
2007-01-16 09:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have enough reason to feel uncomfortable. It seems like he's hitting on you, but in a way you can't be sure. If your friend doesn't like him, she has good reason. Maybe you should talk to her and her mom and tell them why you feel uncomfortable around him. And if it sounds like he's hitting on you to them, then maybe you are right.
2007-01-16 09:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by spirit22poet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. I would avoid going over there at all costs. He sounds like a pervert to me. If your friend asks you why you never want to come over anymore, then you can tell her but until then i wouldn't say anything. You don't want everyone to end up hurt.
2007-01-16 09:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋