2007-01-16 09:18:42 · 39 answers · asked by camerashy2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you love her? NO WAY!!!
Do you want to get rid of her? BY ALL MEANS
2007-01-16 09:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by BKN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you really feel about it? Does she want this just for the sex or to find someone else? Is she willing to let you have sex with other women? Aren't you worried about STDs? If you think it will turn you on, and you two are secure in your love for each other, and you think you can both have safe sex with other people then go for it. If you are not emotionally comfortable with it and you think it will do harm to your marriage then tell her no and tell her why you don't want her to do it. Some people can have sex without any emotional attachment. To others it is more of a spiritual act between two people who love each other. Some couples swing together, love each other dearly and just do it to enhance their own sex life. Don't allow ANYTHING to happen unless you are both very clear on why she wants to do it and how you really feel about it and how it will affect your relationship. Alot of people will say this is cheating. Cheating is going behind your spouses back. At least she is being up front with you about her fantasy. Having said that, the reality is never as good as the fantasy and you both might be sorely dissappointed. Some things are better left as just a fantasy. Tread carefully!
2007-01-16 09:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you and of course up to her that both of you are okay doing this!!!! If you don't feel like doing it then tell her straigth that you are not comfortable with this and set it aside and make her feel good , so good that she would not like to try this group sex... DO what you think is best for both and if there will be noo problems later on because of this go ahead and try if not don;t even think about it !!! GOOD LUCK
2007-01-16 09:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wife isn't property, or a child. They do what they want, just a we men do as we want. So, it isn't a question of "letting" her be unfaithful. She will if she wants. But, unless you are insane, her just asking if she can have a gang bang should end the marriage.
2007-01-16 09:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is strong and mature enough to handle it. I think the suggestion of joining a swinger's club is a good one. See how you like it and there is something for you too, and it is a safe place to try this out. Plus you meet some really nice folks.
2007-01-16 10:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... what kind of dummy did you're mother raise? unless of course that kind of thing gives you the warm fuzzies... I tell ya what... If I were not enough for my wife... then it wouldn't be long before I didn't have a wife... marriage is a bond between two people not to mention the hazards of STD's. and tell you what... if she has approached you on this subject she probably already has done it...
2007-01-16 09:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by alex b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she and you need some counseling. obviously something is wrong in the marriage if she wants to have a group sex experience. I would very much doubt her love. That is just not normal, and what about all the STD's she could bring home and pass on to you ...Not a good idea in my opinion.
2007-01-16 09:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by lynda 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Let" is a funny word. She will do it anyway, right?
If you love her, drag her to counseling, before she does.
If you don't love her, take pictures, and sue her for divorce.
This is not a good idea, but I think it is amazing that she could even mention it seriously. Maybe you have a wide-open marriage, and sex is just a hobby with you two.
2007-01-16 09:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless on your decision sounds like one of you wont be happy and the marriage wont last long. Unless your ok with that sort of thing then more power to you, but then why'd you get married? You deserve someone that wants you and only you. Unless your not that type of person.One question if you let her...
Do you want aids?
2007-01-16 09:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by teapea102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny my hubby wants that to. But he wants me and a other women in him. Its his fantasy. I told him no. Of course we talked about it we didn't argue we talked for a couple of weeks. In the final answer was know. But here's the think I often think about it. I some times think it won't be so bad. Then I think about him doing her and I think that will bug me down the road. Some say if you don't let them there going to do it anyway. Well if they did then that's cheating in now its at a different level. My final answer was no and its still no.
2007-01-16 09:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on man --are you serious!!??!!! How much are you going to enjoy seeing your wife get it from a bunch of assholes??? I would lose it if my wife asked me that --you are married and that should not be something that is going to happen --once she gets it then its over don't fool yourself!!!! It sounds like she isn't happy but, she'll proably say" That's not it-I just want to try it"
2007-01-16 10:31:20 · answer #11 · answered by I'm laughing WITH you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋