My daughters friend whom I have never met called me and told me that tonight he is suppose to go to his fathers over night and begged me and cried to please let him stay at our house instead. He said that once he is here he would like to call his mother and let her know that he is ok and where he is. I have met his mother before and she had once told me that she had suspected that her son was being abused by his father. Possibly sexually abused. She also said that he has also been physically abused and threatened by him. She said that he is a very wealthy and powerful business man and every attempt that she has made to get help he has manipulated social workers and authorities to the point where they have discredited her reports and have accused her of lying. Now this young boy is about to show up on my door step and I really dont want to get involved but I also don't want to close the door on him. He just might really need some help. What do I do?
2007-01-16 09:12:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would call his mother anyway. This does not concern you and you can't drag yourself and your family into this. You can try to help his mother convice social workers,etc that there is something going on because he does not want to go to his fathers house. But really that is about all that YOU can do. You are not a parent or grandparent and you really have no say so regarding this child. Sorry.
2007-01-16 09:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect abuse of any kind, you should call the proper authorities/ You are already involved wether you like it or not. You have an opportunity to be this child's advocate. And, if there is abuse going on, then you have intervened on his/her behalf.A person calling on suspected child abuse, who is not a family member, will draw a "red flag" to someone's attention.And hopefully it will draw the right person's attention that can do something about it.
2007-01-16 17:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOTALLY tell someone! Tell his mother and ask her what to do. if he is getting abused, you should report this to local officials. Try to find out as much as you can from the boy, but do it secretly. You don't want to get in too much trouble, but the life of this boy is at stake! Bring him in and if the father asks why, just tell him that he and your child were hanging out or something.
2007-01-16 17:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Benya K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him stay with you and CALL his mother, discuss the matter with her. You don't wanna get to involved, but wouldn't you rather do all you can to prevent the father from hurting him? Think about this, if you don't, and he goes to his dad's and ends up getting hurt, you'd feel awful. Better safe than sorry.
2007-01-16 17:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by lovelylittlelady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him in, give him a cup of hot chocolate and calm him down. If he really is being abused, you need to call the police immediately.
2007-01-16 17:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat4073 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he is willing to file a police report against his father. That may be his only hope. If he is willing to do so, then call the police and protect him while they are there.
2007-01-16 17:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋