In other words, do you find that fewer people are willing to watch 2 rather than 1. Do you have less time together, etc?
2007-01-16 09:11:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, it all depends on the family and this kids. with my experience, our first was able to help out with the second and we were used to the whole baby routine. therefore in that aspect it was less of a drain and a little easier. we knew what ti expect and had a second set of hands. on the other hand, sometimes the two kids go to bed at seperate times, so that means less time for mom and dad at night. we have to tag team one another in the grocery store and have no opportunity to shop and make decisions together. it all depends on how you look at it and how close the kids are in age....
2007-01-16 09:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by jess l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The drain starts at 3 children. My son and his wife have 3 of their own and 3 foster children in their home all under age 5.
Transportation is always a challenge and farming out the kids takes more time since the foster kids have to remain available to their natural parents and the CPS caseworker.
We have 2 sons and my brother has 3 daughters, all individual births, all now adults. Multiples will create a larger load because their needs overlap with less ability to hand-me-down.
The parents will have more time together of necessity to meet the needs of the family as a whole. Won't work otherwise.
Time alone will probably be about the same once the children are about 3 and potty trained.
2007-01-16 17:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no kids are not a drain on a marriage . . they add to it . . I have 2 and we have less time together than when we didn't have any but I never have a problem when I need a sitter 2 is really no different than 1 . . and we make time to be together without as well as with our kids . . if you think of kids as a drain you might wait a few years to start your family . . my hubby and I dated for 8 years and were married for 5 before we decided to start our family. That way you have plenty of just you two time.
2007-01-16 17:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by Rainy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. I have 2 kids plus a wife of 17 years, kids only make it
stronger.
2007-01-16 17:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been my experience that when the children are a bit older, they having each other to play with takes a lot of the strain off the parents having to constantly entertain them--as one does with only one child.
I am the mom of a boy, girl, boy, girl, boy, girl--two in their 30s, two in their 20s, and two nearing 20.
2007-01-16 17:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having children shouldn't be a drain on you. If you have one child, what's one more ?? If your marriage is drained, I'd get "fixed", or a divorce. Good luck ~~~
2007-01-16 17:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, having two children is easier as they tend to entertain each other, therefore requiring less attention from the parents.
2007-01-16 17:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by Emm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course, it is a bigger drain, but it also a lot more love to share.
2007-01-16 17:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I think in the short run, when the baby is first born, then yes it will be a bit harder. However, in the long run your children will benefit from having a sibling.
2007-01-16 17:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by dailyshag 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you have more time together as they keep each other occupied while you spend time with your wife. Also they learn to share.
2007-01-16 17:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by The Way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋