I am a divorced mother of 4 children. I became preganant with everyone of my children while I was on some form of contraception. I dont recieve support for my children because my ex left the country. I am pregnant again. The father claimed to have a vasectomy although we used protection. I dont understand how this happened. I am not ready for another child.I tried to get my tubes tied before but the doctor told me I had to be atleast 25. I dont want to murder this child but the father disconnected his phone the same day I told him I was pregnant. I am so confused. Sometimes I dont feel like continuing on with my life. I work so i dont qualify for many benefits, and I dont have a support system I'ts just me and the childrenagainst the world. I dont know what to do Does anyone have any advice?
2007-01-16 08:50:34 · 9 answers · asked by Negrita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
someone once told me "you don't have children when you can afford them you have them when God thinks you can handle it" ..and even now days my friends have to remind me that God doesn't give you more than he knows you can handle, you just have to chose the best way to handle what he puts on your plate.. You are very young and unfortunately so many young people make the wrong choices when it comes to an unwanted pregnancy.. when you are pregnant there is always benefits no matter if you work or not, almost every city has some kind of clinic for your medical needs and agencies to assist with your emotional well being as well.. I certainly do not agree with abortion either and IF you strongly feel that you can not handle another child on your own then maybe you should consider adoption.. To me it sounds like the father wouldn't make a good father anyway since he handled the news of the pregnancy the way he did, so you're better off without him anyway..
I don't understand why they would not do your tubes either.. my niece was I think 22 when she had her youngest and third daughter and they advised her to have her tubes tied..
2007-01-16 09:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mouseling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well normally after you have 3 kids regardless of age they will tie your tubes, if i was you i would go ahead with this baby and tough it out, you should be able to get some assistant from the government, but tell your doctor when you deliver you must get your tubes tied and you can't have anymore children by # 5 they should tie them whether or not you are 25! you could put the child up for adoption, but see about government support
2007-01-16 08:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done good with your 4 other children..but if you dont think you will be able to handle it , you could give the baby up for adoption ( not anything i would do..it would break my heart if i ever did that) but the option is there.
One thing you should do for sure though is pray.
Pray that God will speak to you and tell you what you should do, pray that he'll protect you and your unborn child, pray that he'll give you wisdom and strength.
You'll get your answer from God soon enough to make the right choice. Goodluck.
2007-01-16 08:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are things you should have thught of before jumping in bed with a guy that you really didn't know...let's face it, if you knew him, you would have known he was the type to bale on you. Which he ultimately did. Now, you have only 2 options if you don't want an abortion. Have it and keep it or have it and put it up for adoption.... But I also recommend that you get fixed.... you have made it clear, you don't want any more kids...so take care of it. Until then, before jumping into bed with guys that you thought you really knew..... get to really know them.
2007-01-16 09:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already have four children.....you can't afford a fifth child. More importantly, the father wants no involvement in the childs life. 1+1=2. Head for the clinic.....
2007-01-16 08:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by bgsfnstldy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hundreds of loving couples would take that baby in a heart beat. Think of the child and the lives you could change.
2007-01-16 09:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by ladyluc39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Abortion.
GOOD: A simple, one time expense.
BAD: You'll burn in Hell, depending on your beliefs.
2) Adoption.
GOOD: Less guilt, same getting rid of the kid!
BAD: That kid's gonna hate you forever.
3) Don't have sex until you're ready to have kids.
GOOD: You won't be an idiot.
BAD: You already skipped this one!
2007-01-16 09:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Michael V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what kind of birthcontrol have you been on?because it doesn't sound like your on the right kind to begin with.
2007-01-16 09:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be okay
2015-06-10 04:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by Henritta Jones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋