I have found that if you look into the background of people who say "move on" after your spouse has had an affair or left you, they have committed the same or similar transgressions. What does that mean, anyway? Of course you move on after a while. But why be so cold about it unless you acted in the same way?
2007-01-16 08:47:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Hi,
I agree with you. It is a very cold thing to say. I think they say it because don't want to hear your problems. So they say "move on"
2007-01-16 08:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by DY Beach 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation, and it's not always the case that they are guilty of doing the same. If I'm feeling down about a relationship that ended and so is one of my friends, we comfort each other. I don't get snippy with them. And even if a year goes by and they still sometimes grieve over not being with that person, I listen and understand because it took me 2 1/2 years to get over, let go, and FORGET a previous relationship.
That person could be being cold for many, many reasons, but not necessarily what you're thinking.
Good luck to you, and your friend as well (sometimes the angry people are the ones that need the most help).
2007-01-16 08:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on is a saying that maybe sometime we can't understand. It does not mean that the person did the same thing it simply means that there are so many people who have been through the same thing and is fed up and is willing to let go and meet someone else. You can move on and be happy with yourself or have a single life and date until you meet that right person.
2007-01-16 08:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jamonican 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok if found that people who say " move on" have committed to the same similar transgressions then they know what your going through and know that is not worth poutin around about, so maybe you should listen to them since they are experienced in that area, they probably know what they are talking about
2007-01-16 08:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by Rockell 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they probably felt badly about it themselves, and wasted precious time in their life feeling bad. They realized that it's not worth it, and don't want others to do the same. If you're sad that someone has left you or had an affair, why? They're the ones in the wrong, and you shouldn't keep your eyes on the past.
2007-01-16 08:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by dbybell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right. A lot of people have been there/done that and are speaking from experience. The experience tells them that moving on is the right solution. Don't think anyone is trying to be cold and cruel, just factual.
2007-01-16 08:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a easy out to tell you to "move on" more then they might have committed. I think for me once that part of trust is dead you cannot progress but the fear of separation from someone you still love most of the time wins.
2007-01-16 08:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To dwell on it gets you no where. so to be told "Just move on" is a way for friends people, family to help you. There really is no other way. I am not guilty of anything like that, I am guilty of telling my friends to move-on. Only to help them see, the dwelling doesn't help. Good Luck.
2007-01-16 08:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have misdiagnosed the situation. It could be just as likely or even more likely, they have been in the same situation as you and know the futility of it, they have the experience of knowing there is nothing left to do so they move on, and advise you to do the same.
2007-01-16 08:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by mld m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on means to "not dwell in the past",and concentrate on new things,or different people.
That is hard to do,the human emotions are unexplainable and tricky.
2007-01-16 08:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋