I am married and i have been with him for 4 years, although i love him more then anything in this entire world, i do have problems that need addressed asap so i am asking anyone. If you catch your husband talking to other females and looking at porn on the internet and he denies it and it's constant lies ,what do you do?
2007-01-16 08:43:32 · 9 answers · asked by Crystal82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i have pulled up history on the pc as well as his name on the membership sites and showed him all this information and he still denies
2007-01-16 09:21:33 · update #1
Tell him how much his actions and subsequent behavior upset you. I think if he continues to deny it, then you might need to take drastic measures - tell him that it is affecting your marriage and that you don't know if you can remain married to him. Sometimes the cold, honest truth is the only thing that will get him to stop.
2007-01-16 08:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are in love with an entirely different guy than the one you are married to. If this guy is talking to other women on the internet, and spending time on porn sites, he's already involved in relationship(s), it's just not with you. and "If you can't talk about it, it probably isn't anything you ought to be doing"..... so, hon, he's talking to other ladies, and he's a porn relationship...that means your are at least third, maybe above the dog. Guys who are addicted to this kind of stuff just aren't available, and aren't really much in the way of husbands. Marriage is respect, admiration, passion, and trust. You're out the first two, and he is lies to you to boot.
What should you do??? Probably learn to put your views on the table in a non-threatening manner --- read the book "the Assertive Option" which will teach you how to negotiate your wishes and needs without trouncing on his ego. Then maybe the two of you get into counseling for a few sessions to find out why he thinks he needs to have lady friends on the net (ether-land) rather than you, the real thing... Good luck, hon
2007-01-16 17:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to buy some high-quality pornographic DVDs with heterosexual sex on them and watch them together. You're making a mountain out of a molehill, he feels you exaggerating the importance of what he's doing, and so he lies in order to avoid the conflict you're trying to create. The solution is not to address the lying but to address your compulsion to put emotional pressure on him for no good reason. Grow up. Porn is not a big deal.
2007-01-16 16:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i dont think looking at porn is a problem.
if you want to stop him from talking to females thats crazy, you have trust issues.
porn on the internet is nothing mere curtiousty that everyone has, and be grateful he's looking at it at home. He's probably dening it because you make a big deal out of it and embarrass him.
what is he lying about??
If my husband talks to other women i dont care its apart of life how is he suppose to avoid it? its impossible. He comes home to me everynight, porn is only a picture he can not touch or feel it so i dont care and if he lies (not that he ever has it would be to protect me).
I think your over anaylising it and if your asking everyone this you dont have respect for your husband or your marriage.
good luck for your future.
2007-01-16 16:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by aime 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it is my opinion that if he lies about it then there is a really good chance that he has reason to . What does he have to hide? Get some kind of undeniable proof and confront him.
2007-01-16 16:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by rebecca n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get proof, proof that he cannot deny and then call him on it, if he lies to you, then you need to re-evaluate your relationship. If he is lying about that then what else is he lying about?
2007-01-16 16:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone decides that your are no longer worthy of truth & respect, it's time to start prioritizing what's important to YOU!
2007-01-16 16:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Lee Ann M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with copswife....get proof and confront him with it. If its causing you pain, he needs to be respectful and stop. If he can't he needs to seek professional help.
2007-01-16 16:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by AmyB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well. is it worth saving. men think about sex alot so its up to you . You can't teach an old dog new tricks.
2007-01-16 19:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by big stan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋