2007-01-16 08:40:39 · 6 answers · asked by rainee 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Absolutely. A parent is supposed to teach a child right from wrong. I think that it is important to give your child positive feedback about things they do to give them self worth, but I think it is also important to give them constructive critisism, as well as repremanding unsuitable behavior. If all the child hears is positive things they run the risk of believing that everything they do is right, and that's not going to help them develope as a human being. A healthy balance of both is important to raise confident, moral children.
2007-01-16 08:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jennylind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that using unconditional positive (rewards?) consistently will result in an incomplete parenting plan. This would be similar to never punish law breakers, only rewarding those that don't break the law. The old proverb says that 'Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.'
You can picture it like a garden, there are flowers (those positive characteristics you want to nurture), and there are weeds (those negative characteristics, such as selfishness, tantrums, etc.). It's not enough to water the flowers, you must also pull out the weeds through consistent and loving discipline.
2007-01-16 08:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jason M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional positive regard is something that should be used consistently by ALL parents, and certainly there aren't any drawbacks to it. But that doesn't mean that parents shouldn't show anger or dissapointment, or discipline their children. They can - and should. But the behavior or emotional state of the child should not cause a parent to stop showing positive regard to their children.
2007-01-16 08:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! The child has no point of reference. (I call that the Elvis effect) And even in raising 2 or more children, if you decide you will encourage and praise them equally, you can be short-changing the one that works the best. It sounds wrong to you, but I know. The world is not fair and they need to know that. You don't have to be mean. But they know when you're being truthful or not anyway. The parents should live their lives as normally as possible. Children are not lab rats. @8-) Good Luck!!
2007-01-16 08:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg u will get one messed up kid...they will love their parents to death...to the point only they can talk bad about them...and they will just think they are God when they are just delusional
2007-01-16 08:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by g_rant07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but sometimes punishment is also required...
2007-01-17 04:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋