would you stay?

Question

if you and your other slept in separate bedrooms,hadn`t had sex in 8 years,he`s a total slob etc?

Answer 1

I can help you out with the whole no sex for 8 years thing...

Answer 2

Personally I'd put the sex aside. Sex is an important part of a relationship but not everything. the whole separate bedroom thing aside as well. I think you 2 could benefit from counseling or u could just go on living like brother & sister. Try talking to him tell him ur not happy, since your already in seperate bedrooms maybe you 2 should try dating again. revisit why u even got 2~gether in the 1st place. Then find out why he doesnt want to have sex w/ you or vice versa.. if none of that works move on

Answer 3

This is tough because on the surface it seems easy to say: "HELL YEAH! Get out of there!" But without knowing who you are as people or who you used to be before the "great divide" it' hard to know what's missing. I guess that's where I would start if I were you. Look back at what brought you two together in the first place and see if there is enough left to salvage it. Or is it there every day and goes unnoticed after years of the day in day out routine. If you talk to him as well and let him know what's going on, hopefully you can work on it together. It's a long road if you decide to make it work, but it can happen.

If the subtle approach doesn't work, do something dramatic and wake his *** up. If he still doesn't seem motivated to find a solution, it's time to start thinking about your options.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I had this for 3 years, separate rooms etc no love, no communication and I wouldn't change the sheets on his bed or clean up in there. It smelled like a rat nest. Eughhh! We only had sex if he was boozed up and fancied some. I divorced him and now am very happy and looking forward to getting married again.

Answer 5

I had such a miserable marriage and lived with it for 18 years. I couldn't leave because I was scared and he was my backbone and my safety net.

Now, though, I would say heck no. I would be gone pretty fast. I learned to take care of myself and that there are plenty of good, decent, wonderful men out there who need what I can give and who want to be loved well.

There really is no reason to stay in a bad relationship. Life is too short to waste. I kick myself regularly for wasting those precious 18 years.

Answer 6

Well it is all about what people want in life.If you are willing to completely close the door on love romance sex and total committment then why not stay. I f the situation is enough for you then you are good to go. I would personally settle for that inlife there is so much more.

Answer 7

Personally, I don't think that I could live that way. I know a lot of people do, but it wouldn't be for me. The first thing that popped into my head was doe you love him, but it is more than that... Are you in love with him? Does he satisfy you? If you don't want to end your relationship, but are unhappy with the way things are why not ask him to go to a couples therapist with you?

Answer 8

go.... same happened to me ( no sex for 1 1/2 years)... I am MUCH happier now.. there is life outside of a stagnant marriage. Ask yourself if you really want to live like this for the next 50 years... if the answer is " NO" then you have your answer... leave

Answer 9

Of course I'd stay. However, you should clean him up, move into his bedroom with him, and screw his brains out. Take control and have a good life. Stop behaving passively. Do what you want to do.

Answer 10

8 YEARS of no sex? Sorry unless there was a SERIOUS medical reason for that, I couldn't handle it.

Sounds like this was over a long time ago....and not just over the sex.....