What is low self esteem?

Question

What exactly does it mean and how can u get a high self esteem? How do you love yourself? or what do you need to do to start loving yourself? please help

Answer 1

Well, the word 'esteem' comes from a Latin word which means 'to estimate'. So, self-esteem is how you estimate yourself.

To do that you need to ask yourself certain questions:

* Do I like myself?

* Do I think I'm a good human being?

* Am I someone deserving of love?

* Do I deserve happiness?

* Do I really feel - both in my mind and deep in my guts - that I'm an OK person?

People with low self-esteem find it hard to answer 'yes' to these questions.

Answer 2

Low self esteem means that you do not feel as if you are worthwhile, and you have no confidence in your abilities. If you think like this, then it's not that easy to build up your self esteem. Reassurance, and praise from other people can help, but you have to change the way you see yourself in order to really make a difference, and this can take time.

Answer 3

It simply means that you have a poor image of yourself and your worth.

This is usually due to a lack of confidence, sometimes shyness, or being brought up in an environment where you were constantly criticised and put down. (to name a few factors, but there are many more)

The best way to build confidence is to be prepared and arm yourself with some great questions when you meet other people, that you can use all the time.

Kiplings six journeymen can be helpful - start each question with one of the following words where when why what how and who. If you put these in front of a question they cannot be answered yes or no so they are known as open questions example:

Hi How are you?
Whats your thoughts on such and such:
How do you see such and such panning out?
Why do you think that x or y would be a good idea?
Where do you think we should go?
When could we meet to talk about this?
Who do you thinks going to win x?


As you can see when you ask these sorts of questions other people are forced to talk, they can't say yes or no. This allows you the time to simply listen absorb and prepare your next open question.

I have found that people who employ this method quickly become more confident of dealing with others and hence their self esteem raises as their confidence grows.

Its only one avenue of improvement i know, but hope it illuminates some possibilities.

In terms of learning to love yourself, this comes with an increase in your own personal happiness, and being confident helps with that. So learning to deal with others and being prepared with open questions can act as a catalyst to self improvement, self worth and ultimately self love.

Hope some of this helps - best wishes to you.

Answer 4

Yes it is true.People that have low self esteem all have it from different reasons in there life.One may feel unattractive,because of facial features or body parts,etc.Sometimes when people unconsciously attract abusive people its,because they've witnessed abuse in their lifetime so even though its wrong and it hurts its what they are used to. It is not an easy thing to cope with.As far as your self esteem don't worry about what other people look like or what fashion trends are in. Do what looks good on you. Ex. hairstyle,makeup,clothes,etc.Keep telling yourself you look good and with your super personality that no one can top you.Eventually others will see that your confident and have no choice but to respect and acknowledge you.Then you will consciously make the right decisions about who you date because you will care enough about yourself.

Answer 5

Someone with low self esteem, thinks that everyone is better than they are.
A person who thinks this way needs to develop a sense of self worth.
Tell yourself you're pretty nice to know, and jolly well believe it.

Also, be interested in what other people have to say, ask questions, listen.
Soon you will realise you have much to give as a friend.

You need to be outward looking, never put yourself down.

Everyone can get that sense of self worth, as long as you really believe you are as good as the next guy, and hey! You are...

Answer 6

Low self esteem is when you do not have any confidence in your own abilities.
You think that you cannot do something right or that other people can do it better than you.
I don't know about loving yourself but you need to be confident enough to like you for who you are and other people will see that also

Answer 7

sometimes it takes age and experience to understand these questions. Also a lack of parents training, which is not their fault, as they themselves may have grown up without it also. At 62 years of age now, I was about 60 when I realized that I was as good as anyone else, and have learned that in loving yourself is thils: It may sound silly, but keep up your appearence, don"t hang with those who put you down, find better people, accept how you look, make the best of what you have, study and intro yourself to new things,it makes you feel good, and when you feel good, you are happy with your self, love follows. The only thling different between you and the next guy is height, speech, hair etc. lots of luck friend

Answer 8

Low self-esteem is when people keep saying negative things about you, & it gets to a point where you start believing them, which results in you feeling negative about yourself. If you want to start loving yourself, surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself.

Answer 9

low self esteem consists of a person that has built up an illusion of what they think is the PROPER way to be...in most cases it has to do with fads and trends and what is popular...high self-esteem is when u can trust urself to the point anything u can say or do u can take responsibility for it....first identify what are good qualities a good person should have and achieve them....come to peace with your own flaws and why u think u just plain suck so much

Answer 10

Self-esteem is an evaluation of yourself in a positive or negative way. It's a sense of self-worth and it's susceptible to internal and external influences.

You would have to completely change the way you see things, for intance if someone who is close to you is stressed and snaps at you it's easy to take it personally and think that it's your fault etc, but try to be aware of these negative thoughts and for this instance realise that it has nothing to do with you.

Also, assign importance to the things that you're good at and try not to dwell on the things you're not so good at, we all have things we are good and bad at. Accept credit for success and don't think that for instance you did well on something because you got lucky, a fluke, etc.

Value the people who love you, they are part of your life because you're important to them!