My family is so messed up (not that i'm alone). Lot of family issues. The older i get, the more my parents get on MY nerves about stupid things. I'm 28 and married to a wonderful guy for 6 1/2 years. They like him. But they make assumptions and get their feelings hurt when i say no to them or easily take things the wrong way. Note - everyone in my family live at the most 5/10 miles away from eachother. Including me and my husband. Now we are planning to move to Florida (hooray) And i'm siked I am going to be hundreds of miles away from stupid unescessary family drama. Am i rotten to be happy about this?
2007-01-16 08:26:30 · 15 answers · asked by Danielle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Heck no ! ! That is great. Being so far away will build your relationship with your family. And possibly strengthened your marriage. Sounds like you are ready for that fresh free air. It's Great. Best of Luck.
2007-01-16 08:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by With My Forever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha.. I thought my mom was the original jewish princess. or italian mother that never stopped. I loved to be with families that had all the wives, husbands and grandkids running about without much too do. ah sigh... mine isn't like that either. Even the phone calls have become too much and an extention of their voice to command and tell you how the family is falling apart because you are not there. I suggest you talk on the phone every other week but set your alarm or warn her that your battery is low and just hang up. Meanwhile, get caller id and let her leave messages ... that's safer but delete them if they are offensive and stressful. My doctor said it was perfectly all right to do that.
Next suggestion: We tend to parent our parents and they either act like children and let us or shout us down to have power over us. Here's the deal, I got taught. Only respond as an adult even if they are childish or parental... if you can't get them to recognize you as an adult... learn to leave... in your case, hang up. Try, 'Oh, I'm expecting this mail man with my package'... have to go click. Eventually they will learn to treat you like an adult. I took this course from a book... Interpersonal relationships. You learn to give people adult choices. I bet the book is still around. It was an excellent tool. good luck.
2007-01-16 08:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live in on-base housing.... no. Not at all, unless he is under 18 and can be declared your dependent. To even be able to come over for an extended period he'll have to apply for a visa. With that visa, he would need to request a work permit. And generally work permits are not given unless the person already has a job lined up or is in a highly skilled area. Only with the work permit would he be able to get a job anywhere, whether on base or off base. Without it, he won't be working. Military ID... only if you can get him declared your dependent.
2016-05-25 03:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you've always been very close to your family geographically, it might take some time to adjust to being away from them. You can't really get too close to family, it's more of a blessing to live close to them. My nearest relatives live 50 miles away, some as far as 500.
In some areas of China, up to three generations of the same family will live together under one roof in an estate.
2007-01-16 08:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by giwishihadadollar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times your better off moving away from your family. They don't know all your business and you don't know theirs. I was luck enough to be able to move away from my family both times I was married. The man that I am married to now left his mother in another state and we moved to a different state. I liked my mother-in-law enough but she sometimes would get on my nerves. We have only been married for 3 1/2 years and almost everyday she would be at our home. She was lonely and bored and I sometimes felt like we weren't even married.
2007-01-16 08:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT AT ALL. my family is the same way, i even work with some family members...hard to keep family/business issues separate. we all live in the same part of town...i move not out of state but to a new zip code.
love my family (as I'm sure you do too) but to much family isn't always a good thing.
2007-01-16 08:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by aurora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not. i too have the same kind of family and we all live within 10 miles of each other. RIDICULOUS I KNOW. my aunt is actually moving to oregon [we're in california] to get away from the consistent DRAMA. so no you're not rotten
2007-01-16 08:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Susana M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i dont' think so, i know there always have problem between each person, but if you know how to forget and how forgive, then everything will be okay. like my family, my parent live close to my grparent not even 1 mile, and my unlces live next to my parent, and me live 7 miles aways from them, there still have some small matter, but we still happy we can live close to each other
2007-01-16 08:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by bl_ttn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible for family to live too close to eachother.my husbands family are a good majority of the time up our butts just to be nosy and we had our phone diconnected because of them and now they don't bother us like they kept wanting to do.they live 20 min.away from us and that still isn't far enough and we aren't selling our house just to get further away from them.
2007-01-16 08:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not rotten. LOL
Sometimes space is what it takes to make a family work well!
2007-01-16 08:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by Meg M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋