I want to go to a local college the classes are once a week 6pm-10pm, i want to go for Criminal Justice. He dose'nt want me to go and i'm not sure why. But now he's mad at me and wont answer my calls. I dont know what to do about this.
2007-01-16 08:22:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should drop him immediately. If he doesn't want you to better yourself then you don't need him. You need a man in your life who will support you no matter what you decide and not one that is going to hold you back. Go to school, get your degree, you will need it for your future.
2007-01-16 08:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then if he cant respect YOUR life goals!! then you need to check out other fish in the sea.! I would NEVER put my dreams/life/goals on hold for ANY guy!! They are not GOD, you dont have to treat him like he is GOD.....go to school and get your education. Tell him that its your life not his......and if he cant understand it, then he doesnt understand you. I think dropping him is for the better, he shouldnt be mad at a girl that wants to get an education, who is smart,........so what does he want? A dumb girl? not doing anything with her life? Well yeah thats what he should get then! But it wont be you! When you let him go, im sure you will find a succeful guy who has a degree in college! So which is better getting a "career" in Criminal Justice or working at McDonalds full time for the rest of your life....... If he wants to waste his life sitting on a couch then thats fine, but you will be out there getting your lovely degree! lol ok that sounded lame but who cares.! You parents didnt raise a failure hopefully and im sure they want the same out of you. If someone were to tell me not to go to school i'd rather let it be my PARENTS than some boyfriend...... men are NOT that serious! You can live without them. lol :D
Think about it, what if you chose to NOT go to school cuz of him. These are the side effects
You two will break up, then I bet you would've wished you stayed with your school plan huh? So all im saying is if you let him make decisions for you you might as well put a SCAN stamp on your back and turn into a barbie or clay cuz we can make barbies and clay watever we want them to be. Kind of like he can make mold you into what ever he wants YOU to be. NOT GOOD!
2007-01-16 08:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend first of all is not interested in you, he is afraid that you will become more educated and independent. Anyone that does not want another person to educate themselves need help themselves. He is dominant and only want to manipulate you in doing what he wants. I want you to think about what will happen if one day he left you or decided to break up with you, then what. As far as i can see it, he is a player and only wants to mess your life up. It is your choice now, i hope you will make the right and appropriate decision and forget this guy and move on.
2007-01-16 15:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by Dove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO SCHOOL, not sure how old you are but if you want a career you will need an education. does he tell you, you can not do other things?!!?
if you want to be in the field of Criminal Justice you must go to school.
what a selfish/jealous/controlling so and so.
you need to do what is best for you.
2007-01-16 08:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by aurora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling him. If he truly cared about you, he'd be supportive, and encourage you to follow your dreams and pursue your goals. He's a big baby who wants to keep you under his thumb. If you get an education and make something out of your life, he's too insecure to deal with it. Dump him. Whatever you do DO NOT put off school to make this big baby feel better. I guarantee he won't be around for more than 6 months, and you'll be out of an education.
2007-01-16 08:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You worry about you. If he feels that way, it's better to find out now then later. Dump him. One thing to always keep in mind. It might be nice having someone to help take care of you, but always make sure you can take care of yourself if need be, and getting an education is a good place to start.. Good luck to you
2007-01-16 08:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bettering yourself shouldn't be a choice for your "boyfriend". You better yourself for YOU. Going to school is a "no brainer" in my books. Get all the education you can. I speak from experience. A woman needs a college education to survive in these times.
2007-01-16 08:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words, hon.
DUMP HIM.
He may be jealous that you have more ambition and self respect for yourself than he does. Going to college takes patience and hardwork, and you seem prepared for those.
And its ONCE A WEEK. If he cant let you go for four hours, I bet he cant let you go period. Hes being overprotective and stupid. Please dump this jerk because everyone has to follow the roads they believe are right.
2007-01-16 08:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM!!! If he isn't going to support what you want to do, he isn't worth the worry!! You need someone who will say "YAY!!! YOU GO DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO!!!" Because a good relationship is based off of support. You would support him going to school and he should support you wanting to go to!
It seems to me that he just wants to control you, forget that. Be your own women. Being in a relationship is over rated anyways!
2007-01-16 08:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by muse_of_haunted_memories13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he go to school, or is he successful with his life?!!
If not you should rethink this relationship over because he may NOT want you to be better than him, or he is afraid that you become independent someday. If he cares about you he would wish you the best.
2007-01-16 08:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mystika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋