I find girls that are intrested into me are often to needy and are like the scary stalker type when I actually start to like them! What is wrong with this picture? I just dont know how to handle it and really dont like it! It creeps me out.It's fun at first because of the attention but I get bored so quickly! I try to tell them...but they act like I'm breaking their heart or something! Are there any lesbians that are not crazy?
2007-01-16 08:22:11 · 11 answers · asked by MC like WHAT! 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
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2007-01-16 08:23:15 · update #1
heh heh- I often ask myself the same question about crazy lesbians! No, not all of them are wacky. But the stalking behavior seems typical. I was accused of being a stalker once!!!
I was attracted to this girl and she would tell me to come and see her at work and meet her at the bar- then boom one day I'm a stalker!? Since, that wasn't true I immediately stopped talking to her. As time goes on, I find this girl always has a "stalker" after her-- and its the same situation over and over. She's addicted to that type or attention if she likes or not.
You admitted to liking attention. Be careful how much attention you accept. Establish boundaries, don't make yourself to available right away. Control the contact (you don't need to talk to her like 10+ times a day) you don't need to see her every other day. You have to teach people how you like to be treated- communication is key- if you dont have that. You dont have anything. This is true for almost ever relationship. These are guidelines I follow. And I've managed to stay away from clingy girls, crazies and avoided being called a stalker. I find it also keeps the new relationship and exciting for a longer period of time. and I get to know the person better and take quality time its much more fulfilling.
2007-01-16 09:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by J.Brown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea there are a few of us left. lol. You just gotta be picky at who you fall for. Just because she identifies herself as a lesbian & may be attractive, that shouldnt give u the green lite to go for it! Get to kno her REALLY WELL first. Before you make any commitments or catch any feelings. I felt the same way you did two yrs ago. But then i started screening people a little harder before i allowed them in and that's how i met my baby :-)
2007-01-16 08:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i exchange right into a guy (which i'm not) i could %. a 'actual' female who's down 2 earth and loves food. I hate it went females are purely captivated with what they appear like, its so stressful. comparable with adult males actually! x
2016-10-31 07:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think young lesbians are all drama n crazy.. once we get a little older we evolve into a better species.. when i was under 26 man it was crazy,, now I'm a lot more comfortable and able to tame the barbaric, jealous , move in on the first date type lesbian i was in my younger years.. kinda like men yah know.. but men don't change till they hit like 45..
2007-01-16 09:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by bigjoss2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you view relationships through your own version of how you think a relationship should work, therefore how can you expect them to meet your needs? People don't read minds and others have different views on what a relationship is defined as, putting aside people who do have clinically defined psychological issues like my ex (anti-social personality disorder). Be patient, don't be selfish, watch, wait and see. I think rushing into relationships, due to the societal pressures on us, is part of what ruins most relationships. I also think selfishness and "users" are another part of the problem.
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2007-01-16 08:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by vinslave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a very sane lesbian, and I understand what you're going through; i have a crazy, psychotic white girlfriend to deal with. If I could only tell you that story.....lmao
2007-01-16 09:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by sassy_playmate2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to wonder where you are meeting these women... bars? online? Pehaps you need to look somewhere else. I'd suggest a running club, a reading club, a Metropolitan Community Church. There are many, many, sane lesbians.
2007-01-16 08:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must have something they need, as far as emotional support or you're just a really nice person. Either way if you don't feel safe then stay away from them.
2007-01-16 08:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i'm not a lessbian i'm straight but i know some down to earth lesssbians
2007-01-16 08:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think that all chicks are crazy in a psycho way.. wether they know how to controll it is a different story.. Good luck finding one.
2007-01-16 08:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by b_77p 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋