It's getting OUT OF CONTROL. I was drinking ginger ale in a wine glass at a company party and someone freaked out on me..thinking it was white wine....I went to my parents house and had gorgnzola on a burger and brother's girlfriend freaked out on me ( though my doctor said it was fine in moderation) and I asked my friend and her boyfriend to come bowling with me and my husband and her response was " Ashley, you shouldn't be bowling, it's not safe, too much weight for you to pick up"....EVERYONE seems to think they know what's best for me and I can't stand it, ESP when they haven't been pregnant themselves...they think because they've had a few friends that are pregnant, they know everything there is to know....Wine, Deli meats, hygiene etc.etc.etc. If my husband tells me to "go for a walk" or "take a nap" again, I'm changing the locks...
How did you MOMS deal with it? WHat do I say? "actually, you're wrong" - sorry to vent....
2007-01-16 08:19:34 · 19 answers · asked by APV 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Wink at 'em and sip away at your ginger ale :-)
No seriously, try to be polite about it whenever possible. Just smile and say "Thanks, but really my doctor said it was fine..." They can't argue with what "doc says"...hopefully! Congrats on the pregnancy.
2007-01-16 08:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is likely addicted and needs treatment for alcoholism, and the baby is most likely brain damaged by now. Your brother doesn't have a clue, as there are absolutely no benefits to drinking while pregnant. Alcohol is a SOLVENT and dissolves brain tissue of fetuses. Babies born with FAS have a terribly hard road ahead of them. It is a shame you cannot have her arrested for child abuse, because that is exactly what this is. She needs to either have an abortion, or get into treatment. If she isn't thinking for herself, she needs to be court ordered, if not to treatment, at least to detox until she has the baby, then she can do whatever she wants. Try talking to a lawyer to see what are your options.
2016-05-25 02:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by LucyMarie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 weeks PG and if you find out a way, let me know! I know better than they do, this is my third pregnancy but they still think they have the best advice in the world. As long as your doctor says its ok, its ok and thats all you need to know. You could take advantage of your husband wanting you to slow down, he'll get the point soon enough. Or you could just take the blunt approach and let them know that you have spoken with your doctor and they probably have better advice than anyone else. Good Luck to you and Congrats!
2007-01-16 08:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by BlairBear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm a mum of 4 and gave up trying to stop everyone going on at me when I was pregnant quite early on with my first! After that I just smiled at them and made a polite "hmmm" noise and made my escape! Most people mean well and have no IDEA how ANNOYING they are. I know exactly what you mean "especially when they've never been pregnant". Don't lock hubby out though, you'll need him to carry heavy stuff and do the dirty work soon!!
Best of luck!
S.
2007-01-16 08:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Welshdragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you want a nice answer to reply with? You could always say, "oh Thank You for being concerned but I have already talked this over with my doctor and he said that it was fine for me to do "whatever" still, everyone has a different pregnancy though so perhaps when it happens to you go and check with yours, you know, to be on the safe side."
Me, I say, well I haven't miscarried any yet and this is number (insert number here)
2007-01-16 08:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I square danced while pregnant, and people told me I should rest more. I told them that it was "doctor's orders" that I dance more. If I got tired I sat down, but was having way too much fun.
I craved a dark beer once(I can't stand beer, but it was one of those cravings), and the bartender looked at me funny. I told him that I had a bladder problem(which I did, the baby had her head against it) and it was "doctor's orders" that I have a small amount of dark beer or wine once in a while.
Chock up any different food you eat to cravings, and if people try to give you advice, tell them "My body must be needing something in this."
Tell your husband to take a walk with you, or take a nap with you, and I'm sure he'll leave you alone after a while.
2007-01-16 08:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by patience3987 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ha!! I know EXACTLY how you feel. Unfortunately, I have no idea how you would stop the well-wishers (is that a good term) to stop their suggestions without being rude. It just got to a point where I just tuned them out. I read somewhere that you could say "Thanks for the comment, but I spoke with my doctor about it and he says it's fine". Or something like that.
And what's even better is that you'll get even more comments AFTER you have the baby, by the same annoying people.
Good luck!
2007-01-16 08:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by come_on_kiss_the_gun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just smile politely and say well I went over this with my doctor and she said it was fine so I'm not worried. This past sunday I was eating jalapenos and my cousins husband (her husband!) told me that it was bad to eat spicy things during pregnancy because the baby would be born with acne. I said I'd never heard of that and that I've had friends who didn't eat any spicy food at all and their babies still had baby acne. It's ridiculous that everyone else in the world thinks they know better than you and you're the pregnant one! To be honest I just ignore it.
2007-01-16 08:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by MELISA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really stinks, but unfortunately there is no way to stop the comments and remarks. You have to keep in mind though that they are telling you this because they care for you and your baby!
You could try just sitting everyone in the family down and telling them, in a kind way, that you appreciate all the advice that they are giving to you, but essentially this is your experience and you would like to go through it and learn on your own. Let them know they are appreciated and if you do have any questions reassure them that you will not hesitate to ask, but for now, please lay off...just a bit.
2007-01-16 08:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, tell them thank you for their concern but you have a wonderful doctor that is taking care of you. If they persist, keep smiling and letting them know that while you appreciate their concern, your doctor is fantastic and has given you the ok to do whatever they are kvetching about.
If the person persists? Smile and ask them when they finished medical school - this usually stops folks cold.
2007-01-16 08:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by PO'd in Portland 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sooo hear ya on that one! My hubby got mad at me for drinking some of his Coke, I hadn't had any in months!!! My mom keeps naggin you have to walk walk walk! Don't eat that, sit up straight, etc etc I really just smile and say ok even if I don't listen. If they really get annoying I say something although I am not rude. Good luck!
25 weeks with my 1st!
2007-01-16 08:30:03 · answer #11 · answered by Claudia-Elena's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋