daughter 10months sleeps in bed with us, is it too late to get her to sleep in cot?

Question

How do I do it? Is it still possible?

but when i put her in her cot and she screems and cries...do i just leave her? cant she hurt her head from crying too much? my daughter is very stubborn little 10month old

Answer 1

My first daughter slept with us in tell she was 9 1/2 months. I moved her to her own room into her crib and the first few night she cried so i went in for 5 min and patted her back but didn't, no mater what, pick her up. then i left the room. she cried more and i waited 10 min, went back in and did the same thing.i only had to go in 3 or 4 times and from that night on she actually slept better then she ever did in our bed.She is almost 2 now and putting her to bed at night is as easy as telling her it is time for bed. She will walk right in an lay down as long as she has her fav. blanket. I took the advice out of the book The Complete and Authoritative Guide Caring for Your Baby and Young Child Birth To Age Five I would recommend this book to all mothers and fathers.

Answer 2

This is going to cause a riot but, NEEDS to be done.

Tell your daughter that she is a big girl now and needs her own bed. Make a routine of reading her a bedtime story than tell her its time to sleep now. Keep the door open and a night light on, If she gets out of bed put her back in and gently say its bed time, only tell her this 3 times. If she then gets out just put her straight back without saying anything, (you may need to do this most of the night at the beginning). It is really important that you don`t give in. She will probably scream the house down so warn the neighbours first. Don`t get into arguing with her as she will plead and use everything she can.

I have not known this to take longer than 3 nights, when the parents stay calm and focused.

Good luck.

Answer 3

My daughter is three. She slept in her cot and then her bed until the age of 2. She goes to bed beautifully every night and then creeps in bed with us at any time between midnight and 3 o'clock.
We're resigned to it because we have a king size bed and we don't mind. I could get up and put her back in her own bed, but I think I've left it too long now.
In your case I think you've got two options:
1. Go for it. It will take a good few weeks and there will be a lot of screams and tears, but maybe stay with her to start until she goes to sleep. Determination and perserverence is the only way.
2. Leave it until she's walking and buy her a bed and make a big fuss about it being for a big girl etc etc.

You can do it!

Answer 4

My daughter is 20 mo and still occasionally sleeps in bed with us - including last night because she has croup and is pretty distressed. However, when she was about 6 mo, we decided to get her into the habit of sleeping in her own cot (we bed-shared from her birth because she refused to sleep in a Moses basket). I really don't think it's too late to get her to sleep in her own bed.

We used a different method from controlled crying because I hated hearing my daughter cry and she would work herself up into a complete state. The technique we used was called "pick up and put down". Basically, you set up a good bedtime routine and put them down into their cot. When she starts to cry you go back into her immediately, pick her up and check that everything is OK. Do not make eye contact, speak to her or in any way signal that there is some sort of "fun" reward for you going to her. As soon as she stops crying, put her back down in the cot and leave the room. Every time she starts crying, go back into her again. When we did this, we went into her 20 times on the first night, 7 times the next, 5 times the next night, twice on the 4th and 5th nights and since then (apart from illness) she has happily slept in her own cot.

I much preferred the pick up and put down method of sleep training because I think it sends an important message to your daughter - that mummy (or daddy) will always come whenever she needs help but that night-time is for sleeping and not for fun with mummy.

Good luck whatever method you chose - both you and your daughter will soon discover that everyone sleeps better when they're in their own beds - although I have to say, I did enjoy snuggling up to my daughter last night!

Answer 5

Bless you! have four children of my own and all have slept in bed with me for ages. the best way is the controlled crying method leave her for five minutes then go in no eye contact say sleepy time now or something leave the room etc then ten minutes etc It is a nightmare for three nights max but it does work. the upside of leaving it till ten months is that she will understand what you're doing so dont feel guilty when she is screaming her head off. you need to set aside a time when you are ready and have a few nights free get a dvd chocolate and or wine so you have something to concentrate on and i swear it will work. you need to do exactly the same thing every night bath book whatever so she learns what comes next, never feel bad about having her in the bed an dont feel bad for not having her in the bed. all four of mine sleep on their own but all end up in my bed at some point during the early hours. dont hesitate to email me if you need to know more I know exactly what its like. sorry about punctuation or lack of good luck

Answer 6

I'm afraid it won't be easy, but you MUST get her into her own bed. Especially if you have a partner who shares your bed, that is meant to be a special adults only area for you to share. It could have a negative effect on your life to allow her to sleep with you at night. It's not doing her any favours either as it encourages her to be needy and clingy. She needs to learn to self-comfort to some degree, she'll use that skill throughout life. Here's the deal: Put her to bed and then stick out the screaming and crying. Do this for as many nights as it takes and do not relent. Tough love isn't fun to administer, good luck!

Answer 7

Do EVERYTHING u can 2 get ur daughter in her own bed/cot as my daughter is now 4years old and still wants 2sleep with mummy once they are in bed with u it's very hard 2 get them out again. Good Luck!

Answer 8

My son slept with me until he was almost 3. Neither me or my husband never minded, until my daughter was born. We didn't want her sleeping with us too!
But anyways, I never forced him to sleep in his bed. I just gradually got him in there. First we would just lay down in his bed and read books, then he started taking naps in there, then finally at night he would go in there with me and I would read him books until he feel asleep, THEN got to the point where I read him just 3 books and after I was done, I would give him a kiss and he would go to sleep by himself. He was old enough though. He knew that little boys need to sleep in their own beds. At the age of 10 months, it is going to be hard. If you really want her to sleep in her bed, you are going to have to be consistent. Lay her down when she starts getting sleepy and let her cry it out. I couldn't do that and that is why my son slept with us for so long! With my daughter, I never let her sleep with us! It can really happen if you want it to! GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

My daughter slept with me till she was 3, it is never too late. I would first start by putting her in a bed next to yours, then move from there. But 10 months, she should be in a crib.

Answer 10

my son was around 14 months when i put him in a cot, it took 3 nights, he screamed the house down the 1st night i just went up every 10 mins to calm him, by night 4 he went straight to sleep. its heartbreaking to hear them cry the 1st few nights but it is worth it