my boyfriend left me, I have no close friends... I have noone to talk to that will comfort me.... what can I do? Am I a bad person that everyone hates? Should I try to change cause I just suck?
2007-01-16 07:54:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My girlfriend left me and I have no friends either. You probably dedicated yourself to your man like I did to my girlfriend not leaving room for other relationships to evolve. Like my ex he was probably your best friend and now you are lost with out him. You probably don't suck at all but you are just feeling down a dejected because you were the one that was left. I am going through the exact same thing, it sucks but you have to do everything you can to meet new people. You are a girl and generally girls have an easier time of meeting someone new because when it comes down to it women are really the ones in control of the world. Men do all we do in this world in order to get the girl. Cheer up you'll find someone new and work on making friends while your at it.
2007-01-16 08:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by paco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone just sucks!!! I am trusting that you are not a bad person that everyone hates. Think about yourself, what would you WANT to change. Don't change something about yourself that makes YOU feel important to YOU. Somehow, in this world, there has been a certain need to be a part of a group. At the same time, there are certain things you have to do to be a part of that group---some legal-some not. Whatever the case may be you need to set your own standards and decide what will make you happy. If you really want to be a part of something, sometimes you need to be assertive. Other times, there is nothing you can do. I do not know how old you are but be brave. Do something that you would not expect yourself to do. Join a civic, religious, or school club/organization. Educate yourself on things that are needed. There are so many ways you can be a part of a group and have a positive influence in the world. Don't sell yourself short. You have much to contribute.
2007-01-16 16:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by grandmapattydawn55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself a lot of questions. Do you really believe you are a bad person? Do you have behaviors that cause people to not want to be close to you? Are you friendly? To have friends that is a good place to start. Open yourself up to meeting people and sharing a part of yourself. If you are afraid of getting hurt, you might be keeping yourself at a distance. I cannot imagine that you are so horrible that no one would want to be your friend. Maybe you got too involved in the relationship that is now gone. One thing a lot of people do when they get into relationships is let the other ones fall to the wayside. Always keep your friends close. If there are friends you have lost touch with, get in contact with them. Apologize for your distance and work from there. If you truly never have had friends, get out there and join a gym, take a class, do something that interests you, and you will find like-minded people that may just want to be friends with you.
2007-01-16 16:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what it is like to be alone and have no close friends.It does not mean you are a bad person.I don't know you or your specific situaton so it's hard to give specific advice.Maybe you are shy?Try to find an activity or hobby you would enjoy that will bring you closer to other people.Or give someone a chance you wouldn't normally hang out with.Other people feel the way you do.You can find friends in very unlikely places.
2007-01-16 16:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to guess you are an introvert and finding new friends is not th eeasiest of tasks. What you need to do is to be around single people and start talking to them. Could be taking some new classes in school or meeting them at a club, bar, etc
Trust me you are not a bad person
2007-01-16 15:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you walk around all day with the same look on your face as your Avatar, I suggest you try to soften up a bit and be more aware of your facial expressions...
It all depends what you are looking for. If you are expecting people to reject you, they will. If you change your mindset and believe that they will like you, you'll have a much better chance of new friends/boyfriends.
2007-01-16 15:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let me tell u this u need 2 get the hell off this computer and fix urself go out and meet new ppl. there are tooooo many guys out here 4 u not to come home without any numbers. u will b ok sometimes it is good to be alone u find out who u truly are. but try to go out and explore this world of men. u only live once u know.
2007-01-16 15:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counselling to find the real problem.
It's likely that your just not haning around the right kind of people.
Are busy with other things (work, school...) It's possible that you aren't making time to have these relationships and so people think you like being alone.
2007-01-16 16:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by ***HDK*** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a reoccuring life event then maybe you need to take a look at yourself and how you portray youself to others. I have a freind who is like that. No one likes her, and she constantly loses boyfreinds because she has a upity attitude but no strength to back it up. Either tune down the personality or strengthen up your decision in beign you
2007-01-16 15:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by caramelakilah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you feel this way? i'm lonely too- i don't have much friends but- i try to keep close to my family- they are mmy comfort most of the time. Email me- i can help but- be confident and it will all turn out for the best
2007-01-16 15:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋