I have an Ex-husband that has cheated on all 5 wives. I want to tell his wife what he is doing where, when.?

Question

He lies so much that he believe's his own lies. I was married to him I know him like a book. This new wife is so nieve, she thinks that she has changed him. NO! this man is know different than the day I met him, just older and not wiser. I'm not wanting to start trouble, but I look back and wish some one would have told me, so I could catch him my self. No one would tell me nothing. So this is my question, tell or not to tell?

Answer 1

Who would want someone that had been married 5 times. They are dumber than a box of rocks. You will talk to you are blue in the face and they will not listen. I wish people would have told me some of the things my ex was doing but people do not want to get involved. But this guys past is out there for all the world to know. If she ask tell her if not she knows what she is getting. from his history. He must be related to my ex , he believes his own lies tooooooooo.

Answer 2

Please do not tell her. If this ends in a divorce, then you can be blamed for simply being the bearer of bad news. Also, please examine your reasons for wanting to tell her. If it is for benefit, then you are a good person and be content with that. If it is to hurt your ex, you'll be hurting an innocent person in the process.

He is no longer your concern. She has to discover this on her own terms. Perhaps she already knows. Hell, perhaps he isn't cheating anymore. If you really care about this woman, don't be the one to first shatter her marriage. Just be there for her if she comes to you with a problem, and simply tell her that even though he's cheated in the past, you hoped that things would be different with her.

Answer 3

Let her know the sooner the better. She is bound to find out anyway somewhere down the line and the longer it takes the greater the hurt will be. She may think that she has changed him, but he has a history and when the day comes that she finally has to come to grips with it at least she will have been forewarned so it won't be a total surprise.

Answer 4

That's a really tricky question. You're best bet is to stay out of their relationship. If she approaches you, that's different or if she is a friend of yours or an aquaintance then speak to her. If not don't bother. She may not believe you anyway and it may bring more misery into your life. Just think when you were first together and you were "in love", would you have believed an ex wife or his stories of her being bitter because he divorced her? Save yourself the grief and move on.

Answer 5

It is probably too late to help her if she has already married him. Maybe she already knows and doesn't care. Unless you are specifically asked, I wouldn't say anything. Also, you are very angry--I don't blame you, but you need to let it go. Get counseling. Not all men are dogs like this (hard to believe) and it seems as if you should be getting some kind of support so you can move on.

Good luck to you!

Answer 6

if she is naive do u think she would really believe u, it is all good and fine to want to save this woman from the hurt u had to suffer at his hands, but if she is so naive, thinking she is different than the other wives, she wouldn't believe u anyway, she would just think u were trying to get even, or this is what he would tell her. stay out of it, let everyone discover it for themselves, we can't rescue people, unless we are a personal friend and than it may be okay to do it, but not with someone u don't know very well. it may just come back to u, stay out of it.

Answer 7

First..your the last person she would believe because you are an Ex
Second...you have to have proof or she won't believe
Third...if he is as big a liar as you say he will convince her your the liar
Forth...why do you care? revenge? spite?

My Ex also cheated on me, my friends knew it, his friends knew, no one told me. At first I was upset, I know now that I more than likely wouldn't have believed them any way at the time, but after I left him and filed for divorce and he repeatedly claimed he never cheated on me and I was ready to give him another chance my friends did step in and told me all...I was/am grateful that they told me and saved me from more years of being cheated on and lied too.

Answer 8

I can't see any reason why you would not tell. If you have knowledge that he is cheating on his new wife, then I think you have an obligation as a fellow civilized human being to let her know about it. Worst case scenario is she doesn't believe you. If that happens, so what? At least you tried, and not being believed by someone who doesn't know you is no skin off your nose.

Answer 9

I wouldn't. She would just see you as a scorned ex wife and she should have known something must have been wrong with him because he is now on number 5? that right there should have told her something was wrong with him and I am sure he is telling her it was the other women. Just stay out of it.

Answer 10

i think if you tell her she might think of you as a homewreaker, not because your trying to help, but cause she'll think your still in love with him.
He'll denie everything which will make you look worst.
Maybe if you feel strongely on telling her do in a way that doesnt identify you.
Either a letter or phone call.

Once she has doubt she'll take it from there anyway.

But dont do this in a malace way make sure your 100% sure your happy to do this and he is definatly cheating on her cause it may not work out the way you planned.
Good luck