She would forget things important to me. She will use something around the house and leave it same place she used it. Is she really forgetting to return it in it's proper place, or she has a problem? I know she may need brain food so don't suggest this plz. Thanks.
2007-01-16 07:45:26 · 17 answers · asked by cardo11 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is 24 and in the NAVY as a Neurodiagnostic Technician. I am 24 too.
2007-01-16 10:50:29 · update #1
Age has a way of doing this to people, it's natural, if I don't write things down I forget them, completely. Some people use things, like scissors or tape or a hammer and when they are finished just leave the tool right there. I consider this laziness, not forgetful. Same as the paper or a book your reading, if you lay it down where you last had it and not pick it up that is just plain lazy. Being too busy, or too many kettles in the fire, also plays a big part in forgetting things, especially the big things. When I am extra busy, holidays are bad, I am working and trying to remember work related things along with all the things I have to do before going to bed (if I even have time to do that) phone calls are coming in one after the other and by the time I get home to just get out of my dress clothes and high heels...I remember I was suppose to stop and pick up supper, or a paper, or milk for breakfast...once I even forgot to stop at my parents for a social event because I had too many other things on my mind. Every one is guilty of forgetting once in a while, some of us more than others...but if it is a problem that seems to be getting worse by the week, month or even year I'd be taking her to see a doctor, it could be a medical problem in the first stage.
2007-01-16 08:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way. Some people are just like this. It's frustrating. I've lost so many things. In the past few years (I'm 26) I've gotten really bad about it. I was very forgetful, having trouble at work, never remembering errands, not having the attention span to get all the groceries at the store with a list (I would lose the list on my way to the store or space out and forget I had it with me in the first place). It was rough. I asked a doctor, who suggested I may have ADHD (which I'm a skeptic of, anyway) and he wanted to try looking at hormonal and sleep disorders first. I found out I had sleep apnea. I'm on CPAP now, and my husband complains about how everything has to be in it's place when I'm around and how picky I am about picking up at night. My job is doing much better, and I'm a much happier, less irritable person.
2007-01-16 07:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she getting 8 hours of good sleep every night? Not getting enough sleep could contribute to her forgetfullness. You did not really describe any thing that seems out of the ordinary, she could just be lazy. But if she is forgetting other things, other than putting objects away, then maybe yall should make an appointment to speak with your family doctor, there could be some underlying illness.
2007-01-16 07:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by someone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal to some extent. My hubby needs "brain food" too. He made a bowl of cereal the other day, brought it into the living room and put it on a table. He got up to do something and also ended up getting himself another bowl of cereal from the kitchen! I think everyone has moments like that sometimes.. But if it happens a lot, maybe it should be checked out!
2007-01-16 07:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by tmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she has a lot on her mind and is just forgetting these things unintentionally. Try talking with her and get to the bottom of it and ask her to explain what is happening in her life that has made her become a little forgetful. Inform her of your concern and also of how these things that she is forgetting are important to you. Best of luck to you both.
2007-01-16 07:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should that be of great importance?
Do you ant to lose your marriage over that crap?
Let her do what she wants. You worry to much,.
IThe only thing I am against in marriage that I literally burns my butt and I will let her know it too and it is the onoy things...DONT LEAVE AN IRON UNATTENDED OR A STOVE AND FORGET ITS ON
2007-01-16 07:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is not confortable thoose day , she is not feeling good,
and can't concentrate or remember things and that happens.
and anyway there is point and a age that person start to forget !
ask her if she is all right or having problems that she didn't tell you because she didn't have time or didn't want to make you worry!!
2007-01-16 07:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sir, if you desire a long and happy marriage I would let it go. You must let her do whatever she wants to do - ANYTHING - and continue to trust her for the entire duration of your relationship. All that you can do is listen, care, and make her life better.
You're there for her, not the other way around.
FP
2007-01-16 07:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have to accept the bad with the good, if this is the only problem u are having with her, your lucky, most people really have serious things going on. this is common, maybe your a bit obsessive compulsive.
2007-01-16 07:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on her age, she could be suffering from alzheimers. However, Its probably just forgetfulness. Or she could just be lazy and not want to return it, sometimes people live cluttered lives and this is how it starts.
2007-01-16 07:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋