This friend of a friend does not know that my wife is ok with this, she is doing it because she wants to, or because I am married and that is what makes it exciting i dont know, maybe she is just easy. Like I said i had trouble finishing the job... Now my wife wants me to finish with this same person, im not sure if I didnt make a good impression the first time having sex will she try again. Or just move on to the next lucky guy. do you think she will give me another shot.
2007-01-16 07:41:05 · 13 answers · asked by sureofnothing2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, so what you are saying is that you and your wife are fulfilling a fantasy she has of you having sex with another woman (being a "bad boy") then coming home to her.
My wife and I are swingers and have on occasion played solo with those we know. In fact, I see my wife's high school friend who is single once every couple of weeks. BUT, the difference between your situation and mine is that the 'girlfriend' knows about the whole arrangement. She's not being used or played in our little sex fantasy. She is an active, knowing part of it. She even calls my wife when I leave to thank her for lending me to her for the afternoon.
BIG difference.
Regardless of whether or not your wife is okay with it, the other woman doesn't know the whole deal, and thus you are playing with her and setting her up to be hurt in one way or another.
In my opinion, this is what you need to fix before you go any further with this.
2007-01-16 08:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might give you another shot, probably will, in fact, since this her idea in the first place, PLUS, when a guy can't finish, women take this personally and feel they were not good enough to satisfy her man. Me, I hate it when that happens and if it happened a lot, I would cease having sex with that person. But chances are good that she'll want another turn "at bat", as well. But I don't have high hopes for the second go- your heart is not in it, no matter how you look at it. You should tell your wife how uncomfortable this whole thing makes you feel. No one has the right to pressure anyone to do anything, especially sexual things. It's just not right. I advise you stick to your guns with this and the worst that can happen is she'll develop a new respect for your sense of worth. Just give it to her so much she stops fantasizing about how to make it better.
2007-01-16 07:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did u do this in the first place? Did u hound your wife for a 3 some and she just give in cause she loves u? Or was this her idea? If so then she is having an affair and she wants to tell the judge that u had one also. She wouldn't be lying. If u loved your wife then u would have never agreed to this. I think it is time for a divorce or some marriage counceling if u want to stay married to each other. When u get married u take a vow to be faithful to each other til death do u part. This is not being faithful.
2007-01-16 08:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by Shery W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly think you have a shot. If this person is turned on by the idea of having sex with you even though you are married then she will not just "move on to the next lucky guy."
Also, I think you may want to examine why your wife is okay with this. Does she desire an "open marriage"?? You may want to approach her on this to get her true feelings as well.
The best way to enter into such things is with honesty as it prevents hurt feelings later on down the road. It is highly important in such relationships to establish a set of ground rules.
G.
2007-01-16 08:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Greg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Jerry Springer
2007-01-16 08:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your wife say WHY she wants you to sleep with this woman? What are her motives for asking you to do this? I've said this to people over and over again on this site. Get counseling if you want to keep your marriage.
2007-01-16 07:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Is she purely appearing out of harm or is she a whore?" Why does it might desire to be one or the different? And seeing as you have cheated on her, are not you a whore besides? And whyTF do you hit her? what's your important malfunction private Pyle? strengthen up. i does not call what the two one among you have "love". i don't know what to call it. i don't know who's the aggressor interior the fist fights, if that's the two one among you i might very almost say the youngsters might desire to be faraway from the homestead because of the fact (not my place to choose, yet i will do it besides) you sound like undesirable mothers and dads.
2016-10-07 06:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just insane. maybe your wife wants you to sleep with someone else because she thinks maybe they'll teach you something. or maybe she wants you to so she won't feel guilty about her sleeping around.
2007-01-16 07:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your wife want to join you with this other, it's her indirect way of telling you, sounds like a turn on
2007-01-16 07:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your into all that crap why don't you join a swingers club and chat on their web site? You look like a perv on this one but they'll love you
2007-01-16 07:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋