2007-01-16 07:31:50 · 5 answers · asked by o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Very tough question. Love verses self well being. It's an age old question too. If I loved my wife, which I do, and she behaved in a manner that exposed me to jeopardy over and over, can the love survive it? Let's say she gambled and kept spending all of our money. How long can I stay with her in the face of financial ruin being around every corner?
Not to long. Self preservation to survive has to be more important then a relationship. You have to survive to be a positive part of a relationship. If you don't survive and let others drag you down then you won't be able to be a positive force for anyone. Make sense? Yes it does even though it sounds cruel.
Take a step beck. If your partner is going to drag you down with them, what good will that do? You won't even be able to help them back up in the future when the time comes. They will have already sucked the life out of you.
If it's something temporary, sure, work with them. Recover together. If it's something that will sink you both, better to live and fight another day.
2007-01-16 07:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing to do is sit down and talk about your goals. talk about how to fix those set backs and hold each other responsible to reach those goal, but also support one another while you try to get there.
Marriage is never 50/50.Today it's his set back tomorrow it could be yours you never know. What matter is how you get through those times.
I'm pretty sure he knows he is causing a set back and if it's financial , that can be a real blow to a guys ego so try to stay on the same page about things and support don't nag. Know it's not fair but this is when for better or for worst come into play. So try to be understanding,supportive and upfront. Good luck
2007-01-16 15:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
financial set back? or emotional set back? either way, you should never regret anything about the person your with cause that just means your the one who is setting yourself back. basically makeup sex, is it or is it not?
2007-01-16 15:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by rockstar_livin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop allowing your spouse to set you back. Surely you know by now what your spouse is going to do. Think ahead and outmaneuver.
2007-01-16 15:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one you married should always support you in your endeavors. It is his or her responsibliity as your partner in life to do so.
2007-01-16 15:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by simple_man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋