ok my bf is only 4 inches when hes hard. and hes very sad about it and he wont even let me touch him. he only lets me kiss him and hold him. and it is because hes afraid he cant please me with his size. and every time i make a move that i want to be with him sexualy he just moves away...i can tell he wants to and he tells me he wants to but hes just afraid. please is their anything i can do to help him feel better. maby increase his size. make him happyer and let him know that hes just fine and i want him for who he is...not who he isnt. ...please i their is anything i can do to make him feel better about this and help us have a great 1st time together please tell me. if their are any times you can share please do. thanks
2007-01-16 07:28:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
and please be serious about this. no insults
2007-01-16 07:29:12 · update #1
I think he is overly shy about this because it is possible that he has lost a woman or two from the fact of not being able to please them.
I think that he is truly blessed to have you. Knowing about his "issue" and loving him anyway is probably something he hasn't experienced much in the past.
As far as enlarging his genitals, I am not too sure about that. There are plenty of pills and potions but they are not guaranteed to work - at least I don't know of any that have worked on anyone I know.
The only thing that I can think of is to see how open he is to different forms of love making. (i.e., oral and also different "toys", scented oils and things of that nature that may bring you (and him) satisfaction and make him feel like he is pleasing you. That could be a great place for you too to start. Experiment a bit! This way he gets more comfortable with you touching his body and him touching yours. And DON'T REACH STRAIGHT FOR "IT"!! Take your time and be patient. You have to move at his pace.
Just arouse him in other ways first. Give him an all over body massage with warm scented oils. Slowly rubbing and gently massaging him all over. Maybe even take a hot bath together.
Continue to reassure him that you love him and will continue to no matter what. Don't let that be the center point of any sexual conversations you two have. Talk around that issue. Talk about what pleases you -besides "that" and let him do the same.
You will have to take it step by step. Show him that you are enjoying him and that his genital is not the only way he can please you.
Best of luck...
2007-01-16 08:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Drea G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 07:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by applebee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is keep giving him affection and hope he gets over it. Really, its not your problem, its his. We're all made different. Some girls aren't able to handle any more than 4" so he's just the perfect size for someone, maybe its you.
2007-01-16 09:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by hiya071 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check out adamandeve.com....IF you're over 18!! they have a great slecetion of all kinds of products and toys. maybe he would be more comfortable watching you use a toy or using one on you first. may turn him on enough to actually get involved without thinking about it too much first. find out what really turns him on. the more relaxed you can get him the more likely he'll want to go for it.
2007-01-16 07:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Queen B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is that serious that he will not let you near that area, he may need counseling on the subject. Your being supportive is great, but an issue like this needs professional help.
2007-01-16 09:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to be there for him and let him know that you like him just the way he is. When he is comfortable, he'll let you know. Nobody likes to be pressured into doing something they don't want to do. Maybe he values your relationship and doesn't want to compromise it for something as stupid as sex.
2007-01-16 07:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by lovely 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u love him the way he is, and say that u like small dikcs insted of large ones.. [they dont hurt as much and they're easier to give blowjbos 2] lol maybe he'll feel more comfortable
2007-01-16 07:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by sexxi_baby06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont pressure him until he is not embarrased to have sex. that embarrassment is a hinderance and i think u shud wait for him to trust u more like let him see that u dont care about his dick size.
2007-01-16 07:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by CaribbeanChica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing now.Kiss and cuddle him.
2007-01-16 07:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋