I am not at a stage of my life to be living with him as i am 19 years of age and he is 25 and well paid, and when I say no to him he gets the hump with me,I love him but i am just confused and if i do move in with him it would mean that i will be losing most of my teenage years and i will not be able to buy a place of my own.please help I do not know what to do?
2007-01-16 07:27:53 · 14 answers · asked by mariam n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if he truly loved you he would ask you to live with him as an equal, sharing everything.
not as his lodger paying him board.
if you also want to buy a home of your, own this suggests that you do not want to buy with him either.
follow your dreams but be careful not to make it a lonely path by pushing away anyone who offers you a hand on the way.
what i mean is, follow your heart. when a guy comes along that you will do anything for, then you will know it's time to settle down.
2007-01-16 07:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by tuppassister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No No No No No !!!!
If you already feel like that then definately do not move in!
Explain you're not ready but are happy the way things are, he may get upset....men usually do when things aren't going according to their latest plan, but believe me - from experience - you will KILL the relationship if you move in and are not ready. If he really cares for you he will accept it...he'll have to! and if he wont and throws strops you're just getting a good insite on how it might be to live with him at the moment.
Good luck and in the words of Shakespear, " This Above All - To Thyne Own Self Be True"
2007-01-16 15:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by jopiejo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lodger? i think that you should go with how you already feel. He is just a boyfriend at this stage, enjoy your early years, buy your own home and have him lodge with you, helping you to pay your morgage! or alternatively keep him as your boyfriend and move a doubley handsome man in as your lodger. Fink he has alot of cheek for having the hump with you.
2007-01-16 15:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by ambertottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know very well that perhaps your boyfriend and you are at a different stage of life.
you are too young to say you are ready to live with him and lose most of your teenage years.
i am not sure if you think it is alright to lose the most precious time of your life.
*touch wood*
but have you ever wondered what would happen, some years down the road should things not work out fine?
not only would you have lost the prime of your life... but you would have been too dependant on him to start out on your own.
as for him, he has "been there, done that" and has nothing to lose to want you to be live with him.
have a good talk with him... let him know your fear.
if he really loves you... he would understand.
if not, it is time to think again about this relationship.
2007-01-16 15:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by alibaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be having sex or moving in with someone until you are married to the person. I think you might need to find out what true love is and isn't. Read in the Bible, I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" where it says love is patient and kind and seeks not its own way at the expense of others. Love isn't boastful or proud and always believes in the positive. This love is such that it will gladly give its own life to save the life of another. If love dies, it wasn't love in the first place, but probably lust. Lust will fail you, but true love never will fail. It says of faith, hope and love, that the greatest is love. It is this kind of love that has kept my wife and I married for over 28 years. If you don't have this kind of relationship, then you don't have true love.
This guy seems to be after only one thing from you and that is sex. In a few years, he will grow tired of you and dump you for another younger girl. If that wasn't a fact, then why isn't he dating girls his own age? Probably because they know his way and won't have anything to do with him. Get out of the relationship now before it results in something worse, like you becoming a single parent without a father for your kid.
I suggest that you find a Bible believing church and join the singles group there. Most people there will practice true love and you just might a guy who will love you for who you are and not just for the sex.
2007-01-16 15:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to find a flatmate who is willing to share the costs, and you can come over from time to time, If he doesn't like that, no matter how much you love him, move on
2007-01-19 12:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, if you dont want to move in with him put your foot down and say no.
i moved in with my boyfriend wen i was 18,im 21 now and we still living together but its just not right for evryone. do what you feel is right for you and dont be pressured into anything you dont want to do. you seem to be sensible enough so best of luck.
2007-01-16 15:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by Caz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right. But your words betray you. Obviously you're not into the idea of living with him. So then trust yourself and don't be afraid to tell him no.
2007-01-16 15:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by zetser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the mere fact that you are asking this question means you dont want to move in with him, if he is asking you to be his lodger I'm not surprised, how unromantic.
2007-01-18 17:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in doubt (and you are) Don't do it.
You are right you are young and have loads of living ahead of you before becoming, attached.
Good luck in your life ahead.
2007-01-16 15:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by david a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋